Holiness is so Vital!

Hebrews 12:14

Introduction:

Casual and unholy attitudes and lifestyles dominate the ‘Christian’ scene. There is little regard or respect for that which is truly holy. While there are deeply committed followers of Christ, so many remain halfhearted in their pursuits for personal holiness. It is disturbing how there seems to be little interest in understanding holiness from a Bible-based perspective. Thank God there are those willing to stand on God’s promises, share their faith with the unsaved, worship God consistently, and serve others sacrificially. However, so many professing believers want God’s blessings, but they care little for his holiness. Furthermore, many folks seem to be more concern with what they can get away with…is this okay or is that permissible? The interest is not on how much closer we can get to godliness, but how much closer we can get to worldliness.

Titus 1:15-16, says, Unto the pure all things are pure: but unto them that are defiled and unbelieving is nothing pure; but even their mind and conscience is defiled. [16] They profess that they know God; but in works they deny him, being abominable, and disobedient, and unto every good work reprobate.  

Disrespectful attitudes toward God and a lifestyle devoted to Him can be seen in every sector of our culture. We see it in politics, entertainment, sports, fashion, music, and even in modern ‘Christianity.’

Illustration: Beetles More Popular Than Jesus?

John Lennon, at 26, was a member of the British rock’n’roll band topped all disrespect for God by telling a London reporter, “Christianity will go. It will vanish and shrink. I needn’t argue about that; I’m right and I will be proved right. We’re more popular than Jesus now. … ” —Christianity Today

But, worldliness is eroding the moral and spiritual foundations of many churches. Please allow me to speak plainly. I am not talking about our new converts who need time to grow; I’m not referring to visitors in the worship services. I am addressing worldliness among our established church members; so few really value holy living. What is the cure for this ailment? What can we do to avoid being sweep away with this plague of carnality and disrespect for spiritual and sacred things? The answer is in Hebrews 12:14!

Thesis Statement: Pursue holiness in daily life that the presence and work of God may be more evident to you.  Greater spiritual sensitivity comes with greater purity of life!

Message:

• I. What is meant by holiness?

Hebrews 12:14, Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord:

To answer this question, we should remind ourselves that holiness is used of believers in at least three different ways in the NT.

A. What is holiness?

1. First of all, the believer becomes positionally holy at the time of his conversion; he is set apart to God from the world (1 Cor. 1:2; 6:11). By virtue of his union with Christ, he is sanctified forever. This is what Martin Luther meant when he said, “My holiness is in heaven.” Christ is our holiness, that is, as far as our standing before God is concerned.
2. Then there is a practical sanctification (1 Thess. 4:3; 5:23). This is what we should be day by day. We should separate ourselves from every form of evil. This holiness should be progressive, that is, we should be growing more and more like the Lord Jesus all the time.
3. Finally, there is complete or perfect sanctification. This takes place when a believer goes to heaven. Then he is forever free from sin (1Cor. 15:49-57; Rom. 8:18-23). His old nature is removed, and his state perfectly corresponds to his standing.
2. Now which holiness are we to pursue? (Heb. 12:14)
1. Obviously, it is practical sanctification that is in view.
2. We do not strive after positional sanctification; it is ours automatically when we are born again. And we do not strive after the perfect sanctification that will be ours when we see His face. But practical or progressive sanctification is something that involves our obedience and cooperation; we must cultivate this holiness continually.
3. The fact that we must follow it is proof that we do not fully attain it in this life. –MacDonald, William; Believer's Bible Commentary
3. Holiness is one of the most important, if not the most important, attribute of God.

1. Nothing that God does can be done apart from being in complete harmony with His holy nature. Peter declares that “he which hath called you is holy” (1 Pe 1:15), and then he goes on to state what effect that should have in our lives, namely, “so be ye holy in all manner of conversation [life].”
2. An analogy may help in understanding this concept of holiness. What does it mean to be healthy? It means more than not being sick. Likewise, holiness is more than absence of sin; it is a positive, healthy state of being right. This is what John meant when he said that God is light (1 Jn 1:5). The ramification of this is obvious: “Walk in the light.” (1John 1:7; Eph. 5:7-16).

3.      A proper concept of holiness as a requirement for Christian living would end a lot of discussion about what is permitted for Christians and what is not. It seems as though many are trying to discover how close they can come to sin without being cut off from their church, particular Christian fellowship, or clique instead of determining the propriety of things on the simple basis of “Is it holy?”

4. “Don’t be tempted to be a leader in or follower of the “let’s skate on as thin ice as possible” group; instead, be a leader in holiness. This will please God because it imitates Him.” –Ryrie, C. C. A Survey Of Bible Doctrine

• II. Why should we pursue holiness?

1. We realize we will see the Lord (Heb. 12:14).
1. Since no sin can stand in God’s presence, we Christians must—and will be—sinless when we see the Lord (1 John 3:2). This realization offers motivation for pursuing holiness here and now. 
2. 1 John 3:2-3, Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is. And every man that hath this hope in him purifieth himself, even as he is pure.
2. To have a keener perception of God in our daily experiences.
1. We pursue holiness that we might see the Lord. Remember that our perception of God even now is conditioned by our real measure of holiness.  Godly believers can sense God’s presence and activity more readily then those who are spiritually dull and insensitive.
2. Matthew 5:8, Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God.

                                                              i.      A pure-hearted believer’s motives are unmixed, his thoughts are holy, and his conscience is clean. The pure in heart often see God through fellowship in the Word and with the Spirit. We seek to keep our hearts pure that we might see God in our lives today. We cannot see the King if we allow sin to fog and cloud our hearts. Purity of heart improves our perception of His Holiness.

                                                           ii.      But a difficulty remains! Let us understand that this does not mean that we earn the right to see God by living holy lives. Jesus Christ is our only title to heaven. What this verse means is that there must be practical holiness as a proof of new life within. It is a matter of cause and effect; if Christ has been received, the rivers of living water will flow.

3. Titus 1:15-16, Unto the pure all things are pure: but unto them that are defiled and unbelieving is nothing pure; but even their mind and conscience is defiled. [16] They profess that they know God; but in works they deny him, being abominable, and disobedient, and unto every good work reprobate.

3. To protect our homes and families from the onslaught of filth and sin.
1. Many Christian parents enjoy wicked programs on television and video and laugh at the vile, suggestive, God-hating comedians. They find sin entertaining! The children witness their parents listening to wicked music. They see their parents reading trashy romance novels and watching tasteless soaps. They hear their parents criticizing those who try to condemn worldliness, and who seek to highlight biblical standards of holiness for church leaders and workers. They see their parents enamored with the fashions and movie personalities of the world. They hear their parents criticizing those in the church who try to practice holy living.
2. Many professing believers today think manifesting spiritual fruit is optional—that it is not a necessary and natural product of genuine salvation. We pick and choose where we will exhibit respect for God; many times greedily indulging carnal desires and patterns at home. The apostle Paul saw it differently. In Romans 7:4 he asserts, “Wherefore, my brethren, ye also are become dead to the law by the body of Christ; that ye should be married to another, even to him who is raised from the dead, that we should bring forth fruit unto God.”
3. Holiness and the bearing of spiritual fruit are so important for believers that Paul insisted that his converts grow in holiness and Christian maturity. Steady progress in sanctification is crucial. Without it a spiritual and balanced family life is impossible. Your desire to live godly will make the difference between your family’s susceptibility to compromise and your family’s capability to stand firm for righteousness.
4. To influence the unsaved for Christ through our testimony.
1. Unbelievers will not be drawn to accept Christ if believers’ lives do not demonstrate the qualities God desires, including peace and holiness.

                                                              i.      Acts 1:8, But ye shall receive power, after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you: and ye shall be witnesses unto me….

                                                           ii.      We must witness with our lifestyle, lips, and literature.

2. I do not ask for mighty words to leave the crowd impressed,

But grant my life may ring so true my neighbors shall be blessed.

I do not ask for influence to sway the multitude;

Give me a “word in season” for the soul in solitude.  —Unknown

3. Illustration: Bus Driver’s Soft Sell

A number of years ago, near what is known as the Kingsport Press in Tennessee, a southbound bus made scheduled midday stops of twenty minutes so that passengers might freshen up and get something to eat.

One driver said, as he brought his bus to a stop: “Folks, we’ll be stopping here for twenty minutes. This line makes it a strict policy never to recommend an eating place by name, but if anybody wants to see me while we’re here, I’ll be eating a wonderful T-bone steak with French fries at Tony’s first-class, spotlessly clean diner directly across the street.” With that remark he slowly sauntered into the tiny but tidy restaurant.

Naturally, a number of the passengers on the bus took his advice and went into the eating establishment. It came as no surprise to them that the meals they ordered were very good. —Earl C. Willer. Tan, P. L. Encyclopedia of 7700 Illustrations

• III. How can we become holy?

• A. Note what we should depend on God to do.

How are believers sanctified? It involves both divine and human: both God and man contributing and co—operating towards this desired end.

1.      The Father will sanctify the believer.

i.        1 Thess. 5:23-24, And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.  Faithful is he that calleth you, who also will do it. (See Jn 17:17; Phil. 1:6)

ii.      We cannot purify ourselves alone, but we can yield to God and then the purity will come gradually, but certainly.

2.      The Lord Jesus will sanctify the believer.

i.        Hebrews 10:10, By the which will we are sanctified through the offering of the body of Jesus Christ once for all.

ii.      The death of Jesus Christ separates the believer from sin and the world, and sets him apart as redeemed and dedicated to the service of God. The sanctification of the Church is also based on the sacrificial death of Christ, (Eph. 5:25, 27).  See also 1Cor. 1:30

3.      The Spirit of the Living God sanctifies believers.  It is the Spirit of life who gives us freedom from the law of sin and death.

i.        Romans 8:2, For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death.   

ii.      He is called the Holy Spirit, not only because He is absolutely holy Himself, but also because He produces that quality of soul—character in the believer. The Spirit is the executive of the Godhead who works to war against the lusts of the flesh and enable us to bring forth fruit unto holiness (Gal. 5:17–22).

  B. Note what our responsibilities are.

1.      Pursue holiness with great diligence! (Heb. 12:14)

i.                    Place total confidence in the redemptive work of Christ (1Cor. 1:30) and depend on —count on, have full confidence in—the indwelling Christ to live His life through you (Gal. 2:20-21).

ii.                 Rely entirely on the Holy Spirit (Rom. 8:11-14; Eph. 5:18-21).

2.      Consume and obey the Scriptures (Jn. 15:3; 17:17; Eph. 5:26).

i.                    Our sanctification is limited by our limitation in the knowledge of and our lack of obedience to the Word of God.

ii.                 How does the Word of God sanctify? By revealing sin; by awakening conscience; by revealing the character of Christ; by showing the example of Christ; by offering the influences and powers of the Holy Spirit, and by setting forth spiritual motives and ideals.

iii.               “There is no power like that of the Word of God for detaching a man from the world, the flesh and the devil.” –Evans, William; The Great Doctrines of the Bible

3.      Live a life marked by godly distinctness.

i.                    Christians are commanded to love not the world, or the things in the world (1 John 2:15), to not become contaminated by the world around us (2 Peter 3:14).

ii.                 We are commanded to live holy lives (1 Peter 1:15-16).

iii.               We must abstain from fleshly lusts (1 Peter 2:11), to abstain even from the appearance of evil (1Thess. 5:22).

iv.                The believer is to jealously guard his thought life to ensure it is approved of God (Phil. 4:8), bringing captive every thought into obedience to Christ (2 Cor. 10:5).

4.      Allow God to use you to influence sinners for Christ! (Matt. 5:13-16).

Illustration: The lower lights surrounding a lighthouse guide the boats in the harbor away from the treacherous rocks and into the channel. This interesting analogy in the hymn, “Let the Lower Lights Be Burning,” was suggested to author and composer Philip P. Bliss as he listened to D. L. Moody tell a sermon illustration about a pilot during a storm.

“Brethren,” concluded Mr. Moody, “the Master will take care of the great lighthouse. Let us keep the lower lights burning.” Bliss, as he often did, immediately put this challenging thought into a hymn.

Brightly beams our Father’s mercy from His lighthouse evermore, but to us He gives the keeping of the lights along the shore.

Dark the night of sin has settled. Loud the angry billows roar; eager eyes are watching, longing for the lights along the shore.

Trim your feeble lamp, my brother! Some poor sailor tempest tossed, trying now to make the harbor, in the darkness may be lost.

Chorus: Let the lower lights be burning! Send a gleam across the wave! Some poor fainting, struggling seaman you may rescue, you may save. --Osbeck, K. W. 1990. Amazing Grace

Conclusion:

We may not all be powerful lighthouses, such as D. L. Moody, or Philip Bliss, but God calls us each to be “lower lights” wherever we are to guide some fainting, struggling person to the eternal haven through a holy lifestyle and with deeds that direct all attention to our heavenly Father. Resolve to keep a gleam burning for Christ by your attitude, habits, words, and actions so that some seeking individual may be directed into a calm and secure relationship with our Lord.

What Makes A Marriage Christian?

Many people in the western world regard marriage as a secular institution subject to the whelms of society and culture. Many followers of Jesus Christ insist marriage is a divine/sacred institution subject to the guidance of God as stated in the Scriptures. As soon as we Christians make such a statement all kind of questions usually follow. Who did Cain marry? Is it okay to have more than one wife? Did Jesus support divorce? Was the Apostle Paul really a chauvinist? If marriage predates Christianity…why bother perusing a Christian marriage? I can assure you I have no intention of tackling such questions here. Instead I wish to explore some basic Bible teachings that when applied to a marriage union results in a “Christian Marriage.”

I should say from the outset I do believe marriage is between a man and a woman, and God performed the first wedding in the Garden of Eden when He united Adam and Eve. Marriage is his idea. One man to one woman for the remainder of their lives walking in the basic marriage principles God gave them is key (Gen. 2:21-25).  Also, the Bible records what happened historically regarding marriages (the good, the bad, and the ugly); some marriages are exemplary while others are not. These biblical occurrences are not automatically authoritative; the examples should not be understood as endorsements or prescription for us today. The Scriptures simply record the facts of what actually happened. The principles and teachings of Scripture on marriage are the key focuses; as we adopt these and obey God's guidance our marriages will become Christian in character. Yes, it is possible for two Christians to be married to each other and their marriage not be Christian in character. God’s Word and Christian principles must mark the union to make it Christian. So, what does this involve directly? 

A CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE ACCEPTS JESUS CHRIST AS LORD AND SAVIOR

Acts 4:12, Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.

John 15:5,  I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing.

Just as God’s program for marriage involves His plan and principles, it also involves His Person. As we have before indicated, it necessitates Him being at the center of the marriage. Before you can know God’s Enduring Plan for Marriage that can make your marriage and family life meaningful, you must meet some basic requirements:

A.  YOU MUST BECOME A CHRISTIAN.

      1.  Recognize That You Too Are a Sinner.

Romans 3:23,  For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;

Romans 6:23, For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

      2.  Be Born Again Through Faith in Christ.

John 3:14-18,  And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, even so must the Son of man be lifted up: [15] That whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life.

    [16] For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. [17] For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.

    [18] He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.

  

      3.  Believe the Resurrected Savior and Ask Him to Save You Today.

Romans 10:9-13, That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. [10] For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. [11] For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed. [12] For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon him. [13] For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.

The book of Genesis which introduces God’s plan can only be understood and acted upon by real believers.  The book of Ephesians, which discusses God’s plan for Married life, is also written directly to believers. If you’re not a believer, there is little hope that you can make your marriage and family anything near what God intends it to be.

B.  YOU MUST CHOOSE FULFILLMENT THROUGH CHRIST.

John 10:10, The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.

We receive life the moment we accept Christ as our Savior. After we are saved, we soon discover that there are various degrees of enjoyment in this new spiritual life. The more we turn ourselves and our relationships over to Christ and the control of the Holy Spirit, the more we enjoy the life which has been given to us. We not only have eternal life, but we have a more abundant fulfilling enjoyable and satisfying life experience. The same principle is true of our relationships when Christ is at the center.

                                                                                                         

     1.  God Offers Total Fulfillment and Strength Through Christ.

Galatians 2:20,  I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.   

Philip. 4:13,  I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

Christ adds the blessing when He is at the center of the matter and His will is faithfully pursued and obey in the lives of His subjects. We cannot merely try to use God to fix our marriages and then discard Him when we’ve reached our goals. God will faithfully strengthen you and your mate as you pursue His will; this is true for everything He wants you to do.  What He commands, He will enable us for and afford the necessary grace.

     2.  Unbelievers Cannot Realize This Abundance and Fulfillment on Their Own.

Now I’m not saying that nonbelievers can’t have meaningful relationships. They can—but only up to a point.

         A.  Unbelievers Will Never Know Total Relationship Fulfillment.

An individual can find total fulfillment only in a relationship with God!

         B.  No Marriage Can Be Totally Fulfilling Without THE AUTHOR of Fulfillment!

A marriage can find fulfillment only if its definition is designed and authored by God Himself. So, apart from knowing Jesus Christ, we can’t expect a marriage or family to be fulfilled, because God is the One who created man, invented marriage and the family, and wrote the book on how marriage is to function.

     3.  Focus on Christ and His Kingdom as Your Number One Priority!

Matthew 6:33, But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

         A.  Put God First in Your Life.     

         B.  Put God’s Righteous Character First. 

         C.  Trust God With the Needs in Your Marriage.

You nor your mate is the most important person in your marriage! God is! Make Him first and bring your marriage under His authority and blessing.

John 12:32, And I, if I be lifted up from the earth, will draw all men unto me.

C.  YOU MUST GIVE YOUR MARRIAGE TO THE LORD.

Ps 127:1-2, Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.  2,  It is vain for you to rise up early (Useless Anxiety), to sit up late (Fruitless Worry), to eat the bread of sorrows (Worthless Self Pity): for so he giveth his beloved sleep. (Rest and Dependence on God)

Our efforts without the Lord are described as “vain,” “useless,” “produces nothing.”  No matter what your skills, your strengths, your determination may be-all will be in vain unless God is truly The Builder.  We must become dependent on Him for life, for health, for strength, for practical wisdom, for a disposition to continue to build our homes, and for success in it. Without Him our efforts and work might be destroyed by spiritual fires, by a tempests, by an earthquake, or by an attack of our enemies!  For a promising and prosperous result, we must depend entirely on God.

     1.  The Lord Can “Build” and Develop Your Marriage With Certainty.

   

                 A.  Our Marriage Will Be Built or Rebuilt

Prov 24:3-4,  Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established:  4,  And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches.

The word “builded” in Prov. 24:3 has the idea of “Restoring”.  Its the concept of rebuilding something so that it flourishes.  Its the same idea as when God took Adams rib and rebuilt it into Eve.  The point is this: Any marriage can be restored or rebuilt! It is never to late for God but this will require some real wisdom! (Swindoll)

                 B.  Our Marriage Will Be Established or Reestablished

Establish means “to set in order, to place in an erect or upright position” something that is falling or twisted.  This will requires some true understanding.

                 C.  “Build” Implies Progress, Growth, Positive Development, and Change!

     2.  The Lord Can “Keep” and Protect Your Marriage With Certainty.

Psalm 127:1,  Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the Lord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.

We have all been through the gates to the Post and witnessed first hand the efforts of securing and keeping the posts safe. Keep means basically the same in this verse.

                 A.  Our Marriage Will Be Kept and Guarded

The meaning of “Keep” is to hedge about, to protect, and to attend to.  God will preserve, propitiate the relationship that is committed to Him throughout your lives.

                 B.  Our Marriage Will Be Filled and Fulfilling

The idea conveyed here is that of “overflowing” real Fulfillment, Abundance and complete Satisfaction.  To realize this will require knowledge.

In summary this is what we have to look forward to when we follow God’s Plan; this is what His Program will afford!  You would have to be mentally blind to not see this as a excellent deal!

What I am saying here should serve as a great motivation to bring our marriages to the Lord.  This is like knowing the promising outcome even before we turn our relationships over to Him.  Anyone who truly cares about the welfare of their marriage would enthusiastically buy into this!  What God can potentially do in our relationships ought to be extremely inviting to us all!

Prov 24:3-4, Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established:  4,  And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches.

                  C. “Kept” Implies Security, Safety, Protection, Preciousness, and Value.

A CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE SUBMITS TO THE SPIRIT’S CONTROL  

Ephes. 5:18, And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit;

There’s more to having a meaningful and fulfilled marriage and family than just being a believer in Jesus Christ.   There is the need to walk daily in the power and counsel of the Holy Spirit of God!

A.  EACH MARRIED PARTNER SHOULD WALK IN THE POWER OF THE HOLY SPIRIT.

    1.  Who Is in Charge of You and Your Marriage?   Eph 5:18

Although Eph. 5:18, is often quoted in support of anti-drinking efforts, the underlying issue goes deeper than whether or not to drink alcohol. The more important concern is, what -- or who -- is going to be in control of your life? Either the Holy Spirit is, or something else is. And whatever else it may be, it's a poor substitute. Being filled with alcohol can make you lose control and do stupid things. Being filled with the Holy Spirit gives you self-control (Gal 5:23) and helps you worship God and serve others.

     2.  Constantly Live Under the Influence of the Holy Spirit.   Eph 5:18

The words "be filled" are a command for all believers, yet believers do not manufacture it -- God fills believers with his Spirit when they profess faith in Jesus Christ as Savior. Paul was suggesting that the believers in Ephesus needed to "continually be filled"; Since they already were indwelt by the Spirit they needed to be continually filled with the Spirit, that is keep on living like that.  The words are also in the present tense, indicating constant replenishment with the Spirit -- believers are not "once-and-for-all" filled but rather are continually being filled with the Spirit as they continue to walk with God.

     3.  Who is the Primary Influence in Your Life and Marriage?   Eph 5:19-21

We must learn to live UNDER THE INFLUENCE of the Holy Spirit each day and especially at home!

The effects of alcohol are obvious. What happens when we are under the influence of the Holy Spirit? In these verses, Paul lists three by-products of the Spirit's influence in our lives: speaking, singing, giving thanks, and submitting.

          A.  We Develop a Servant’s Heart.  Eph 5:19

When the Holy Spirit controls us, we speak to one another with psalms, hymns and spiritual songs.

           B.  We Develop a Joyful Heart.  Eph 5:19

We  sing and make music in our hearts to the Lord.

           C.  We Develop a Thankful Heart.  Eph 5:20

And we "[give] thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ." Paul did not intend to suggest that we only discuss religious matters, but that whatever we do or say should be permeated with an attitude of thankfulness to God and encouragement toward each other. Instead of whining and complaining -- which our culture has raised to an art form -- we are to focus on the goodness of God and his mercies toward us. Which is more characteristic of your words and attitudes?

            D.  We Develop a Submissive Heart.  Eph 5:21

This is the last participial phrase flowing out of being filled with the Spirit and functions to introduce verses 22-33. People often misunderstand the concept of submitting to another person. It does not mean becoming totally passive. Christ submitted his will to the Father, and we honor Christ by following his example. When we submit to God, we become more willing to obey his command to submit to others, that is, to subordinate our rights to theirs. In Paul's day, women, children, and slaves were to submit to the head of the family -- slaves would submit until they were freed, male children until they grew up, and women and girls their whole lives. Paul emphasized the equality of all believers in Christ (Gal 3:28), but he counseled all believers to submit to one another by choice. This kind of mutual submission preserves order and harmony. (MacDonald)

Submission provides evidence that we have Spirit-controlled relationships, and it requires the Holy Spirit's guidance and restraint (4:2-3). In the church, the believers should be willing to learn from, serve, give to, or be corrected by others in the fellowship. Such submission can allow growth both individually and corporately as the believers seek to follow Christ. Our motives should be "reverence" (literally, "fear") for Christ. We should not treat one another rightly just because it is expected or because we will be well regarded but because one day we must give account to Christ of how we have lived.

Submission: this verse acts as a hinge between the preceding verses that deal with wisdom and living under the influence of the Holy Spirit, and the following verses, which consider the relationships between husbands and wives and Christ and the church. In 5:21, Paul says that the one who is filled with the Spirit not only reflects God's goodness in speech and attitudes but also manifests it in willingness to submit to others out of reverence for Christ.Submission often has unpleasant implications for modern Christians, perhaps because this principle has been abused in the past and has been used to justify overbearing and self-serving behavior. But Jesus was willing to submit to the will of his Father and to the agonies of the cross. "Submission" is not a bad word. How do you respond to the idea of submitting to others? Are you willing to place the interests and desires of others ahead of your own in Jesus' name? (Source Unknown)

QUOTE: “The best thing a woman can do for her husband is to make it easy for him to do the will of God.”-- Elisabeth Elliot Gren

     4.   Feed Your Spouse With the Delicious Fruit of the Spirit in Your Life.

Galatians 5:22-23, But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, [23] Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.

         A.  The Fruit of the Spirit is One Super Multi-Fruit.

Have you ever heard of a multi-vitamin?  Well here is a multi-fruit!   In Gal. 5:25, Paul mentioned the fact that the Christian lives in the Spirit, that is, he derives his spiritual life from the indwelling Spirit of Christ.  This same spiritual life is the motivating force producing “the fruit of the Spirit.” The word fruit is singular, which shows that all of the elements of character spoken of in these verses are in perfect unity, oneness, and agreement making for a well-rounded and complete Christian life.

QUOTE: “The word fruit, being singular, as usual in Paul’s writings, tends to emphasize the unity and coherence of the life in the Spirit as opposed to the disorganization and instability of life under the dictates of the flesh. It is possible, also, that the singular may be intended to point to the person of Christ, in whom all these things are seen in their perfection. The Spirit seeks to produce these by reproducing Christ in the believer (Gal. 4:19). Passages like Rom 13:14 suggest that the moral problems of redeemed men and women can be solved by the adequacy of Christ when he is appropriated by faith.” --The Wycliffe Bible Commentary

Expect the Multi-fruit of the Spirit to construct you into a well-rounded believer. We are all familiar with people who had great potential, ability, and skills, but their weaknesses and lack of discipline greatly hindered them or literally destroyed them.  Certainly a well-balanced, symmetrical and well-arranged character is something to be desired.  It is true that we all have our own strengths, naturally given to us by God through our parents, but God offers additional strengths through the activity of the Holy Spirit.  This is necessary though we have certain qualities genetically, we also have weaknesses.  The Holy Spirit can amplify our strengths and improve our weaknesses and limit their impact on our lives.  The end result is a well-rounded believer living an effective Christian life unhampered by his own inherent weaknesses, frailties, flaws, and in-capabilities.  Instead of the person being an excessive talker with a harsh disposition, or mouth of the south who frequently says what comes to mind, they can be tempered by the Spirit through the fruit of temperance, meekness, and gentleness.  Instead of the individual being limited by or even ignoring God’s stated will by their paralyzing fears, they can be released by the power of the Spirit to boldly execute God’s plan by the qualities of faith, meekness, peace, and goodness.    

         B.  The Fruit of the Spirit is One Manifested Fruit.

The difference between the “works of the flesh” and “the fruit of the Spirit” is that the products of the flesh are plural, whereas the product of the Spirit is singular. Although Paul does not mention the truth here, there is also a contrast between the degrees to which “the works” and “the fruit” are produced. A given person may habitually practice only one or two, or perhaps a half dozen, of the sins Paul mentions in verses Gal. 5:19-21. But it would be practically impossible for one person to be habitually active in all of these sins. “The fruit of the Spirit,” on the other hand, is always produced completely in every believer, no matter how faintly evidenced its various manifestations may be.  Yes, in greater percentages in some areas, but still all characteristics are evident.

         C.  Remember Fruit is For Eating Not Displaying.

We must Remember That this Fruit Is Produced to Be Eaten, Not to Be Admired and Put on Display. People around us are starving for love, joy, peace, and all the other graces of the Spirit. When they find them in our lives, they know that we have something they lack.

We do not bear fruit for our own consumption; we bear fruit that others might be fed and helped, and that Christ might be glorified. The flesh may manufacture "results" that bring praise to us, but the flesh cannot bear fruit that brings glory to God. It takes patience, an atmosphere of the Spirit, walking in the light, the seed of the Word of God, and a sincere desire to honor Christ.  In short, the secret is the Holy Spirit. He alone can give us that freedom from sin and self. He enables us to fulfill the law of love, to overcome the flesh, and to bear fruit.  Will you yield to Him and let Him work?

B.  WHY DON’T EVERY CHRISTIAN HAVE A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE?

There are many Christians who know and love the Lord who are not living according to His moral, marital, or familial laws. Why?

      1.  Because They Are Not Filled with the Spirit.

It’s one thing to possess the Spirit of God and another to be filled by Him.

Ephes. 5:18,  And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit;

In other words, every Christian possesses the Spirit but is not always controlled by, or filled with, the Spirit.

But, how do we do this?    

         

            A.  Confess and Put Away All Known Sin.  1Jn. 1:5-9.

            B.  Yield Yourself Completely to His Control.  Rom. 12:1-2.

            C.  Let the Words of Christ Dwell In You Richly.  Col. 3:16; Eph. 5:19-21

            D.  Be Emptied of Selfishness.   Gal. 2:20

      2.  Because Carnality Can Only Cause More Discord and Disharmony.

1 Cor. 3:1-4,  And I, brethren, could not speak unto you as unto spiritual, but as unto carnal, even as unto babes in Christ. [2] I have fed you with milk, and not with meat: for hitherto ye were not able to bear it, neither yet now are ye able. [3] For ye are yet carnal: for whereas there is among you envying, and strife, and divisions, are ye not carnal, and walk as men? [4] For while one saith, I am of Paul; and another, I am of Apollos; are ye not carnal?

Spiritual immaturity and carnality is the primary reason that Christians fail in their marriages.  They may no even divorce each other but they are extremely unhappy.  And when we’re not controlled by the Spirit of God, our family life will manifest that– “envying, and strife, and divisions.” A carnal believer is going to have discord in his family because he has discord between himself and God. So, to be a believer is the starting point; but being controlled with the Spirit is what brings results.

C.  WHY DON’T COUNSELORS, BOOKS, AND SEMINARS SAVE MORE MARRIAGES?

We’re drowning in a sea of information on marriage today: marriage seminars, marriage conferences, marriage encounters, marriage books, and marriage counselors.

     1.  Turning to Therapists, Techniques, and Tools is Not Enough.

People think the first thing to do when they have a marital problem is to see a counselor, psychiatrist, or analyst, buy a supply of books, go to a seminar, listen to tapes, or fill out charts. I don’t want to oversimplify this, but if you’re not filled with the Spirit, you can do all those things, but none of them will matter.

     2. Turning to Biblical Instruction Without Wise and Thoughtful Application is FUTILE.

          A.  Strenuously Avoid the Mechanical Approach to Problem Solving.

Here we discover that a ‘mechanical’ or an instant ‘magic formula’ approach will only prove to be frustrating and unfulfilling----you must become the proper mate in your marriage by complete dependence on God!

          B.  Use the Right Spiritual Materials for Godly Instructions as a Must.   

              1.  The Word of God.

When we choose God’s Word as the primary tool of instruction for our marriages we have the right materials for building the best relationship.  But the right materials must still be wisely used or we will still have frustration and become disillusioned with God.

              2.  The Wisdom of God.                                                                              

Prov 24:3-4, Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established:  4,  And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches.

          C.  Thoughtfully and Wisely Apply God’s Word to Your Marriage.

The  Thoughtful  Application of the Word of God Is Necessary to Attain the Desired outcome and atmosphere in your marriage.

Prov 24:3-4, Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established:  4,  And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches.

               1.  There Are No Magic Formulas and Quick Solutions!

Again it is vitally important that you understand that I don’t have a bag full of “ magic formulas”  that you can take an pour on your relationship to make it better.  But, if you will take theses principles and apply them with wisdom then your marriage will improve because you have become the kind of husband or wife you should be!

                2.  There Are Wise Steps That We Can Take.  Prov 24:3-4

God is saying here in this verse that we need three essential skills, “SPECIAL INGREDIENTS,”  to become the proper mate God designed me to be, and they are: Wisdom, Knowledge, and Understanding.

                     A.  Be Sure to Use WISDOM and Discernment.

Wisdom is seeing with discernment.  It’s having a broad perspective.  The term stress accuracy, the ability to sense that which is beneath the surface.  You will need this vital skill to rebuild or build your marriage!

                     B.  Be Sure that You Respond With UNDERSTANDING.

Understanding is responding with insight.  This is a must to see your married established.  As I view things with discernment (from God’s perspective), I am better equipped to respond with insight, not to take it personally or feel the need to fight back.   You will need this vital skill to set your marriage in order!

                     C.  Be Sure to Pursue KNOWLEDGE and Truth.

Knowledge is learning with perception.  It includes having a teachable spirit, a willingness to hear, a desire to discover.  Knowledge includes taking the time and going to the trouble to learn.  Growing, healthy mates are in constant pursuit of truth. (Swindoll)

     D.  Choose an Attitude of Dependence on the Lord as an Imperative!

Prov 2:6,  For the LORD giveth wisdom: out of his mouth cometh knowledge and understanding.   (These come ONLY from the LORD, not a convenience Store!)

THE ONLY SOURCE OF TRUE WISDOM, UNDERSTANDING AND KNOWLEDGE IS THE LORD!

When we combine these verses they teach the following: (Swindoll)

“By means of Wisdom--the skill to see with discernment, maintaining a broad view of life---a house is built, restored so that those within it don’t simply exist, they flourish, they reach their potential. 

By means of Understanding---the ability to respond with insight, gaining a full awareness of situations that results in an insightful  response rather than a surface reaction----one brings order and upright condition back to a marriage and home.

By means of Knowledge---the willingness to learn with perception, becoming acquainted with the facts and grasping their significance so that ignorance is dispelled and truth is continually pursued---one causes each life to be filled to overflowing with riches that can never be destroyed, like memories, positive attitudes, mutual respect, and a depth of character.”

Now you see its not a mechanical quick fix, its a spiritual process in which we become the proper mate through dependence on God!  Therefore depend on him to supply these needed skills to build your marriage!

     3.  Turn to The Spirit of God That He Might Transform You and Your Marriage.

On the other hand, if you’re filled with the Spirit, He’ll control your relationships.

           A.  Good Books May Help.

Now counseling, books, and seminars can be helpful in giving you practical hints on how being filled with the Spirit should work itself out in your relationships.

           B.  God’s Spirit Builds Relationships.

But the epitome of the Christian life is to be filled and controlled by the Holy Spirit. Only when that happens will our marriages and families be what God intended in the first place. That is what Paul is saying in the passage beginning in Ephesians 5:18.

CONCLUSION: 

Way back in the beginning God spelled it out. As early as the second chapter of Genesis, He made it clear that marriage is a total commitment of the total person for total life.  Anything less is not a Christian marriage. Anything less can easily fail. But when man and wife come together, committed to God and committed to communicating the full meaning of their lives to each other, they cannot help but succeed.

Walking In The Spirit of Life!

Galatians 5:24-6:1

It is easy to talk about the fruit of the Spirit or walking in the Spirit while doing very little about it. This is entirely unacceptable to our Lord Jesus. We need to learn that it is in the concrete situations, rather than in emotional highs, that the reality of the Holy Spirit in our lives is demonstrated. One of the great goals of Christian freedom is Spirit-led ministry or service to others in concrete and daily matters (Eph. 5:9; Col. 1:9-13; Phil. 1:11).

While it is true the flesh may manufacture "results" that bring attention to us, but the flesh cannot bear fruit that brings glory to God (Anders). It takes patience, an atmosphere of the Spirit, walking in the light of God’s fellowship, the seed of the Word of God, and a sincere desire to honor Christ. In short, the secret to spiritual freedom is walking in the Holy Spirit! He alone can give us the freedom from sin and self. He enables us to fulfill the law of love, to overcome the flesh, and to bear holy fruit. Will you yield to Him and let Him work in you? Note carefully what Paul said,

And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. 25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. 26 Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another (Gal. 5:24–26).  

Now let’s consider some thoughts on Walking in the Spirit based on this incredible statement from God’s Word.

First, Our Fallen Nature Is Rendered “Dead” As We Walk In The Spirit Of Death (Gal.5:24)

Paul lays before us the reality that our fallen nature has been crucified with Christ at His sacrificial and representative death for us. He insists that since we presently have life in the Spirit, it is incumbent upon us to walk in the Spirit. That is, we are obligated to live in complete submission and cooperation with the Spirit of God in our daily relationships and opportunities to serve others. Believers have zero obligations to fleshly carnal living; we are impressed by this passage to identify with Christ’s death through the power of the Spirit of God.

Secondly, Our Fallen Nature Is Rendered “Dead” As We Walk In The Spirit Of Life (Gal. 5:26)

Wiersbe suggests that Paul is probably focusing on particular problems in Galatia. “Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another” (Gal. 5:26).  If we walk step-by-step in the Spirit, we will have the spiritual resources to solve any attitude and conflict problems in the church. Additionally, perhaps even walking in the Spirit could be used by some as an occasion for pride. The apostle mentioned three particular problems (Gal. 5:26). They are the opposite of serving others, and they remain three prevalent sins in churches today. So, how do we walk in the Spirit of life?

By Watching Our Own Spirit (Gal. 5:26). 

This is the beginning of very practical challenges and instructions (Gal. 5:26-6:10) on how to actually walk in the Spirit as a church and as individuals. This is the first of a number of specific actions that should characterize Believers who are truly being led by the Spirit. But, it is also a return to the problems and conflicts mentioned in verse fifteen. In Galatians 5:26, there are three attitudes we must strenuously avoided:

              Beware of The Spirit of Pride and Contention —“Let us not be desirous of vainglory” (5:26).  Let us not become conceited, literally holding a false or empty opinion of ourselves. This means “prideful” or “vain” actions because of mere perceived advantages. If we are not careful we too can become conceited; expressing ourselves in favorable terms to boost our reputation and to prop up a sagging ego. In fact many Believers act rather conceited because they believe they are “more spiritual.” The bottom line is conceit causes relational problems. Beloved, do not let personal pride negatively impact your marriage, family, church, or work relationships (Phil. 2:3). But, how can we detect this harmful attitude?

                     It is an Arrogant Attitude.

A palpable spirit of contention dominates this passage and this fact points to the ‘parent sinful attitude’ of the spirit of vainglory or self-promotion (Prov. 13:10; Luke 22:24; Js. 3:14-16; 3Jn. 9, 10). Pride stirs up strife, and conflict fueling contentions like gasoline would a wildfire!            

APPLICATION: God does not want us as Christians to be boastful or conceited braggarts; such behavior is utterly inconsistent with being a sinner saved by grace. People living by human standards often become proud of their personal achievements taunting those who do not come up to their standards. The prideful Believer will often harshly criticize other Christians who do not have the same lists of taboos they condemn. In the opposite extreme are those Believers with zero apprehensions about anything. They categorize everyone, even those with legitimate biblical standards and convictions, as legalists if they possess even a few convictions. They mistakenly view spiritual freedom as permission to do whatever they fancy and pride themselves on their ‘freedom in Christ.’ With them anything goes and they arrogantly flaunt their ‘freedom’ in the face of others. Such unfounded ‘glorying’ is atypical of walking in the Spirit of God!

                    It is a False Advantage (only perceived).

Competition is stimulated and given life because of false supposed advantages. Such empty pride is based on specific imagined requirements by the deceived! Such empty bragging brings no real glory to God; instead it results in shameful pride and church clicks. Consider Webster’s definition of pride:

 Pride is an inordinate self-esteem; an unreasonable conceit of one's own superiority in talents, beauty, wealth, accomplishments, rank or elevation in office, which manifests itself in lofty airs, distance, reserve, and often in contempt of others; insolence; rude treatment of others; loftiness; ostentation. (D. Webster).

              Beware of The Spirit of Provocations and Challenges— “Provoking one another” (Gal. 5:26).  It is a denial of the Spirit-filled life to provoke or challenge other people to measure up to our own private viewpoints or standards. Please allow me to clarify, we all are profoundly obligated to live up to truly biblical standards, but personal standards cannot and should not be applied to others. Remember we can never anticipate the problems, needs, and temptations of another person’s heart. Therefore, we must refrain from such misguided provocations. Such a challenge is born of pride and entirely unjustified. Refuse to be the source of needless annoyances that only generate more anger and frustration. This is the opposite of the virtues the Holy Spirit desired to evidence in our lives. While many will find the temptation to elevate themselves because of their adherence to some false notion, we must refuse to become embroiled in prideful conflicts. Do not allow yourself to be an irritant in your church.

              Beware of The Spirit of Pinning and Comparisons—“Envying one another” (Gal. 5:26).  Envy is specifically the sin of wanting something that belongs to someone else to which one has no right or claim.  Envy begrudges another person’s superior success, talent, possessions, charisma, opportunities, or personal attractiveness. Persons of few talents or weak character are apt to envy those they deem to be more successful, accomplished, or more ‘committed’ to God. All such self-centered yearnings, greed, and avarice are foreign to grace. A godly Believer should esteem others better than themselves while rejoicing in the blessings of God in another person’s life.  Mere religious performers desire too much attention using their ‘ministry’ opportunities to garner personal attention and the accolades of others. A church is not the place to compete for godless notoriety.

True greatness is a willingness to serve others unnoticed, or in obscurity as long as it is God’s design for us. It is contentment to labor for years virtually unseen sincerely for the glory of God.

These Believers were “envying one another;” they yearned to have what others have earned or achieved. Whether recognition, family, status, money, or even spirituality is the object of envy, such comparisons are not wise. Envy will needlessly divide Believers and ruin a church’s unity in Christ. Refuse to give in to envy, and only compare yourself to God’s revealed will for you.

Pride makes us perpetually vulnerable to certain temptations. When Satan cannot stop our spiritual growth, his tactic immediately changes to the seduction of pride. As soon as we notice our progress, we must place ourselves on alert against pride taking root in our hearts. This will be especially acute if we measure our growth against the progress others are making. Growth should not be a cause for pride, but for humility and thanksgiving because it comes from God.

QUOTE: Popularity Contest

Everyone needs a certain amount of approval from others. But those who go out of their way to secure honors or to win popularity become conceited and show they are not following the Holy Spirit's leading. Those who look to God for approval won't need to envy others. Because we are God's sons and daughters, we have his Holy Spirit as the loving guarantee of his approval. Seek to please God, and the approval of others won't seem so important. (Unknown)

By Working Against Sin (Gal. 6:1). 

Watching our own spirit is half the battle; we must also work hard against sin and its impact. Here is a lovely statement on how a sinning Believer is to be treated by other Christians. Paul says, “Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted” (Gal. 6:1). No, the first step is not condemnation nor calling down divine judgments upon an offender. Godly Christians are to come to the aid of a failing Believer much like a good doctor would operate to set a broken bone for a patient who is dear to him. With thoughtful reflection on the possibility of our own failures, we give spiritual aid to another in the spirit of meekness. There is no room for pride in this scenario. This is how “spiritual” Believers behave! Yes, they recognize that sinning is utterly wrong and will by no means condone or sanction anything that is truly offensive to a holy God. However, their aim or goal is not merely to be right, nor to condemn. It is to restore the fallen to fellowship with God and the church. Spiritual Believers help failing Believers get back on track in their walk with God. Paul knew how to directly discourage pride and dampen the party spirit that was ripping up the Galatian churches. Walking and working in the Spirit of Grace is the ultimate solution to such evils.              

To be overtaken in any trespass describes a man who has committed an act of sin rather than one who is habitually sinful. Such a person is to be dealt with by spiritual Christians. A carnal brother or sister in Christ might, by a hard, cold attitude, do more harm than good. Then, too, the offender will not likely receive the admonition of a ‘Christian’ who is himself out of touch with the Lord.

Yes, beloved, walking in the Spirit is living in Christian freedom! Such liberty involves developing Christlike character, and giving loving service to others as we follow the Holy Spirit. The Spirit-led Christian thinks of others, especially fellow Believers, and seeks to serve them in concrete work-a-day ways. Walking in the Spirit is not exclusively for preachers; God prescribed this lifestyle for every Believer in Christ. It is not merely for emotional elation in a high-powered church service; instead abiding in the Spirit’s power is a daily practical matter.

Please understand that spiritual fruit is not merely self-effort. A Believer is certain to become completely frustrated when their personal determination does not produce the results she or he wants to see.  Beloved, we must cooperate with the Holy Spirit in the process of developing supernatural fruit. Again the great benefit of Christian freedom is walking in the Spirit and bearing spiritual character supernaturally and not merely through self-determination. The fruit of the Spirit is character qualities that God has and He desires that we possess them also. This is the Spirit’s transforming work in a Believer’s character resulting in actions and attitudes of ministry.

To those who might prefer a mystical experience at church or a flight of ecstatic-emotional fancy, walking in the Spirit is a most down-to-earth practical matter. It involves personal relationships (Gal. 6:1-5) and the use of money (Gal. 6:6-10) and measuring spirituality by godly actions in these areas (Wiersbe).

It is easy to talk about walking the Spirit while doing very little about it. We Christians must learn that it is in the concrete situations, rather than in emotional highs, that the reality of the Holy Spirit in our lives is demonstrated. One of the great benefits of Christian freedom is Spirit-led ministry and service to others in concrete and daily matters.