Friday, June 20, 2014

What Is God Really Like?


What is the truth about God? What does the Bible actually declare about Him? What is the benefit of knowing about God? Actually accepting the truth of what we know about God is the first step to knowing Him closely. We can know God intimately as we come to see Him act consistently and predictably with His biblical characteristics. Yes, any study of God and theological concepts about Him should influence not only our idea of God, but our relationship with Him. For those who do not know Him, this study can afford a basis for placing personal trust in Christ as Savior to enter a faith-based relationship with Him.

I.                   What is God Really Like?
Primarily these are Bible designations of God and they afford us insight into His character and fundamental nature.

Our goal here is to note the essence of God, and to grapple with the God-stuff that He actually is.  It is His fundamental nature that we are concerned with in this article. We will attempt to answer the question, “What is God?”

A.     God is a Spirit (John 4:24).
1.God is Spirit is a definition of His Being. This represents the nature of God as non-material and invisible (Col. 1:15; 1 Tim. 1:17; Heb. 11:27).  His substance is not like a mere man (Jn. 1:18; 3:6), subject to all the errors and limitations of humanity. Neither is He confined to any one place at any time. He is an invisible Person who is present in all places at one and the same time, who is all-knowing, and who is all-powerful. He is perfect in all His ways.
2.God is invisible, incorporeal, without parts, without body, without passions, and therefore free from all limitations; He is apprehended not by the senses, but by the soul; hence God is above sensuous perceptions. 1 Cor. 2:6–16 intimates that without the teaching of God’s Spirit we cannot know God. He is not a material Being. –William Evans
3.Therefore, those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth. Since He is Spirit, He must reveal Himself in the Word of truth. The worship of Him must be in accordance with His self revelation.
4.There must be no sham or hypocrisy. There must be no pretense to being religious, when inwardly one’s life is corrupt. There must be no idea that in going through a series of rituals, God is thereby pleased. Even if God instituted those rituals Himself, He still insists that man approach Him with a broken and a contrite heart. –Believer's Bible Commentary
5.“LaPlace swept the heavens with his telescope, but could not find anywhere a God. He might just as well have swept a kitchen with his broom.” Since God is not a material Being, He cannot be apprehended by physical means. –Evans, William
B.     God is Light (1Jn. 1:5).
1.God is light. God is absolutely holy, absolutely righteous, and absolutely pure. He cannot look with favor on any form of sin. In Scripture, light and darkness are very familiar symbols (Jn. 1:4-5, 7-9; 3:19-21). Intellectually, “light” refers to biblical truth while “darkness” refers to error or falsehood (Ps. 119:105; Prov. 6:23; John 1:4; 8:12). Morally, “light” refers to holiness or purity while “darkness” refers to sin or wrongdoing (Rom. 13:11–14; 1 Thess. 5:4–7).
2.God is light and in Him is no darkness at all. God is the Revealer of His holiness. Both aspects of the divine nature relate to sin and fellowship with God (1 John 1:6-10). As Light, God both exposes man’s sin and condemns it. If anyone walks in darkness, he is hiding from the truth which the Light reveals (John 3:19-20). Nothing is hidden with Him, but “all things are naked and opened unto the eyes of Him with whom we have to do” (Heb. 4:13). John forcefully affirms that God is absolutely perfect and nothing exists in God’s character that intrude upon His truth and holiness (Js. 1:17). God cannot sin because He is holy. Because we have been born into His family, we have received His holy nature (1 Peter 1:14–16; 2 Peter 1:4).
3.Light produces life and growth and beauty, but sin is darkness; and darkness and light cannot exist in the same place. If we are walking in the light, the darkness has to go. If we are holding to sin, then the light goes. There is no middle ground, no vague “gray” area, where sin is concerned. –The Bible Exposition Commentary
C.     God is Love (1Jn. 4:8).
1.God is love. It does not say that God loves. That is true, but John is emphasizing that God is love. Love is His nature. There is no love in the true sense but that which finds its source in Him. The words “God is love” are well worth all the languages in earth or heaven.
2.G. S. Barrett calls them:
... the greatest words ever spoken in human speech, the greatest words in the whole Bible. ... It is impossible to suggest even in briefest outline all that these words contain, for no human and no created intellect has ever, or will ever, fathom their unfathomable meaning; but we may reverently say that this one sentence concerning God contains the key to all God’s works and way ... the mystery of creation, ... redemption ... and the Being of God Himself. –Believer's Bible Commentary
3.Since God is love, intimate acquaintance with Him will produce love. Like light (1Jn. 1:5), love is intrinsic to the character and nature of God, and one who is intimately acquainted with God walks in His light (1:7). –The Bible Knowledge Commentary
4.God is love. This does not mean that “love is God.” And the fact that two people “love each other” does not mean that their love is necessarily holy. 
5.Much that is called “love” in modern society bears no resemblance or relationship to the holy, spiritual love of God. Yet we see banners saying “God is love!” displayed at many festivals, particularly where young people are “doing their own thing”—as if one could dignify immorality by calling it “love.” –The Bible Exposition Commentary
D.    God is a Consuming Fire (Heb. 12:29).
1.God is a consuming fire (See Heb. 10:26-31). These words come from Deuteronomy 4:24. The fire and smoke which manifested God’s presence at Sinai (v. 18) were but symbols of His consuming holiness that destroys all persistent inexcusable evil. It is God Himself who is the fire with which we should be concern, not a mere physical fire.
2.God is a consuming fire to all who refuse to listen to Him. But even to His own, His holiness and righteousness are so great that they should produce the profoundest reverence and respect. A believer who departs from his magnificent privileges will invite God’s chastisement.
E.     God is Triune (1John 5:7).
1.God is both one and three. God the Father, God the Son, and God the Spirit are one God, but they are also distinct Persons of the Godhead. Each Person of the Godhead works with and through the others to accomplish God’s plan of salvation for us.
2.The teachings are: 1. That God is one, and that there is but one God (Deut 6:4; 1 Kings 8:60; Isa 44:6; Mark 12:29,32; John 10:30). 2. That the Father is a distinct divine Person distinct from the Son and the Holy Spirit. 3. That Jesus Christ is truly God, and yet is a Person distinct from the Father and the Holy Spirit. 4. That the Holy Spirit is also a distinct divine Person.
F.      God is Personal (Ex. 3:14).
1.God is not an “It” or “Force,” but a Personal Being. God’s name, “I AM THAT I AM” consists of two central ideas—existence and personality. All through the Bible names and personal pronouns are ascribed to God undeniably proving He is a Person.
2.Personality exists where there is intelligence, will, reason, individuality, self-consciousness, and self determination. All of these are most true of God (Gen. 6:6; 1Kings 11:9; Deut. 6:15; Matt. 6:28-30; Rev. 3:19). God behaves like a person: He creates (Gen. 1:1), provides (Ps. 104:27-30), cares (1Pet. 5:6, 7), grieves (Gen. 6:6), and loves (Jn. 3:16).
3.True religion may be defined as the communion between two persons: God and man. Religion is a personal relationship between God in heaven, and man on the earth. If God were not a person there could be no communion; if both God and man were one there could be no communion, and, consequently, no religion. An independent personal relationship on both sides is absolutely necessary to communion. Man can have no communion with an influence, a force, an impersonal something; nor can an influence have any moving or affection towards man. It is absolutely necessary to the true definition of religion that both God and man be persons. God is person, not force or influence. –Evans, William
4.God is utterly different from dead false idols (Jer. 10:10-16; Ps. 135:15-18; 1Thess. 1:9).
G.    God is Life (John 5:26).
1.God has a form of animated existence. He has activity of thought, feeling, and a will. He is the Source of all life, both natural and spiritual (Gen 2:7; Jn. 1:3-4).
2.A person can receive life from the Lord Jesus (Jn. 5:26). Just as the Father is the Source and Giver of life, so He has decreed that the Son, too, should have life in Himself and should be able to give it to others.

3.This again is a distinct statement as to the deity of Christ and as to His equality with the Father. It cannot be said of any man that he has life in himself. Life was given to each one of us, but it was never given to the Father or to the Lord Jesus. From all eternity, They have had life dwelling in Them. That life never had a beginning. It never had a source apart from Them. –Believer's Bible Commentary

II.               How May We Describe God?
When reduced to its simplest definition, an attribute of God is whatever God has in any way revealed about Himself. These are the perfections and characteristic known to us as revealed in the Bible. Bear in mind that God is infinite and there may be attributes of Him that we cannot conceive and therefore cannot know. Just as angels may know of God’s grace and mercy, but they cannot know from experience these qualities because they have never sinned. But, because of their privilege they may know certain perfections of God that we cannot know. There are facets of God’s holy nature that are entirely unknowable, but these are revealed and obvious of Him.
A.     God is Self Existent (Ex. 3:13, 14).
1.God exists because He exists.  The great “I AM THAT I AM” is not dependent upon anyone or anything for His thoughts (Rom. 11:33, 34), his will (Rom. 9:19; Eph. 1:5), his power (Ps. 115:3), his counsel (Ps. 33:10, 11), or His needs (Ps. 50:10-12).
2.The existence of God explains the existence of the universe, the order and purpose in the universe, and the uniqueness of humanity. Biblical evidence demands the existence of God.
B.     God is All Knowing (Ps. 139:4; 147:5; Isa. 40:13, 14; Heb. 4:13).
1.God has complete and universal knowledge of all things past, present, and future (without any prior discovery of facts). Since He has always been and is everywhere at once, He consequently knows all without any exception. God sees all things (Prov. 15:3), he knows all things (Ps. 147:4; Matt. 10:29, 30), He knows mankind (Ps. 139:2, 4; Ex. 3:7; Matt. 6:32; Ps. 103:14), and He knows the past, present, and future (Acts 15:18).
2.The implications of God's omniscience are similar to the implications for His omnipresence. First, it is a comfort to His children. No piece of information that God needs to keep his children safe will escape His notice. No knowledge needed to correct a mishap or solve a problem is missing. Do you hurt? God knows. Are you lonely? God knows. Are you confused? God knows. Do you have need? God knows. And even though He knows our every thought, He still loves us (Romans 5:8). Take heart. God knows, and He loves us anyway.
3.On the other side of the ledger, there is no hoodwinking God. There is no wool to be pulled over His eyes (Jeremiah 17:10). Here is the futility of trying to hide sin from God. We've got the spotlights at Carnegie Hall trained on us. Hypocrisy is ludicrous. Sneaking is ridiculous. Are you trying to put one over on God? Think again. One who is omniscient has nothing put over on Him.
C.     God is All Powerful (Gen. 18:14; Job 42:2; Rev. 19:6).
1.God can do anything if it can be done and if it is consistent with His nature. He has power over nature (Gen. 1), he has power over angels (Ps. 103:20), he has power over people (Dan. 4:30-32), he has power over Satan (Job. 1:12; 2:6), and he has power over death (Heb. 2:14, 15).
2.He put the galaxies in place. He breathed life into a lump of clay and created man. It is by looking at nature, and specifically “space,” that we get some feel for God's omnipotence. An article from National Geographic speaks well to this subject:

Far from the land of everyday, out in the distant curves of the universe, lie strange and fantastic realms, unlike anything in our wildest dreams. Hidden by the barriers of time and space, they have lived forever beyond the reach of man, unknown and unexplored.
But now, just now, the cosmic barriers have begun to lift a little. Man has had his first glimpses of these once secret domains, and their bizarre ways have left him stunned. They challenge his very notions of matter and energy. With Alice in Wonderland, he says, “One can't believe impossible things.” And impossible, indeed, they seem to be.

D.    God is Everywhere at once (Ps. 139:7-12; Matt. 18:20).
1.God is present everywhere at the same time with His entire Being. God is active in the world and through his creation, but still independent of it. God transcends his creation—He is above and beyond it. Therefore everything is not God, nor is God everything—Pantheism.
2.There is nowhere we can go and not be in the presence of God. As Paul Little has observed in his book Know What You Believe, “He is not like a substance spread out in a thin layer all over the earth—all of Him is in Chicago, in Calcutta, in Cairo, and in Caracas, at one and the same time.”
3.Now there are some important implications to omnipresence. One is that omnipresence is not pantheism. Omnipresence states that God is everywhere. Pantheism states that everything is God, or a part of God. If you were sitting in a tree, omnipresence says that God is present with you. Pantheism states that the tree is God. The God of the Bible, however, is separate and distinct from His creation, though He is present with it.
4.Second, omnipresence means that you cannot sin without sinning in the presence of God. If you are tempted to tell a little white lie to someone you don't know, God is present. If you are tempted to commit a sexual sin with another person, God is there. If you are tempted to falsify your income tax report in the privacy of your own study, God is there. You cannot sin without sinning in the presence of God.
5.Third, omnipresence means that God is always with you. You are not alone. Loneliness is one of the greatest emotional problems of the day. Billy Graham has stated that when he preaches on loneliness, he gets a greater response than on any other topic. Because God is omnipresent, the person who is alone or lonely can take comfort from that. God is there. Many reports of prisoners of war and hostages, who have spent many years isolated, have reported that knowing that God was present sustained their faith.
E.     God is Sovereign (Isa. 46:9-11; Ps. 135:6; Rom. 8:28).
1.God is the absolute and sole Ruler in the universe. He has the total freedom, power, knowledge, wisdom, and determination to carry out a predetermined course of action. His sovereignty is in no way shared with evil, nor does it destroy human responsibility and choice. God’s sovereignty brings Him glory and man good (Rom. 8:28, 29).
2.God permits injustice in our world and sovereignly works His good purpose despite them. This conviction that God is sovereign underlies our acceptance of the Lord Jesus as our example of living with injustice (1Pet. 2:18-25). This is the correct understanding of submission and suffering. 
3.Sovereignty is not a property of the divine nature, but a prerogative arising out of the perfections of the Supreme Being. If God be a Spirit, and therefore a person, infinite, eternal, and immutable in his being and perfections, the Creator and Preserver of the universe, He is of right its absolute sovereign. Infinite wisdom, goodness, and power, with the right of possession, which belongs to God in all his creatures, are the immutable foundation of his dominion. –Hodge, Charles: Systematic Theology
4.This sovereignty is exercised, (1.) In establishing the laws, physical and moral, by which all creatures are to be governed. (2.) In determining the nature and powers of the different orders of created beings, and in assigning each its appropriate sphere. (3.) In appointing to each individual his position and lot. It is the Lord who boxes the bounds of our habitation. Our times are in his hands. He determines when, where, and under what circumstances each individual of our race is to be born, live, and die. Nations, no less than individuals, are thus in the hands of God, who assigns them their heritage in the earth, and controls their destiny. (4.) God is no less sovereign in the distribution of his favours. He does what He wills with his own. He gives to some riches, to others, honour; to others, health; while others are poor, unknown, or the victims of disease. To some, the light of the gospel is sent; others are left in darkness. Some are brought through faith unto salvation; others perish in unbelief. To the question, Why is this? the only answer is that given by our Lord. "Even so, Father, for so it seemeth good in thy sight."[Matt. 11:26] –Hodge, Charles: Systematic Theology
5.See these passages also for more on the sovereignty of God (Deut. 4:39; 1Sam. 14:6; 1Chron. 29:12; 2Chron. 20:6; Rom. 9:14-18).
F.      God is Eternal (Deut. 33:27; Ps. 102:11, 12; 90:2).
1.God is totally free from the tyranny of time. With God there is no past or future, but one always and never-ending present. He is not conditioned by time nor confined by it.
2.Where did everything come from? Scientists say it came from a big ball of mud bubbling in the center of the universe which eventually exploded and formed the galaxies we see today. My mind asks, “Where did the mud come from?” Scientists say, “The mud just always was.” I don't buy it. Others suggest that the mud wasn't always there, but came into existence somehow. I don't buy that either. Something coming from nothing? It is easier to believe in God than to believe that something came from nothing. The scientist will then say, “Well, if you believe in God, where did God come from?” But that question is absurd. There must be a beginning point. The beginning point can either be an eternal ball of mud, or it can be an eternal God. It takes more faith to believe in the ball of mud than it does to believe in God. God is eternal. He never had a beginning, and he will never have an end (Psalm 90:2). It is a very reassuring thought to me. It makes me feel safe. The universe can make sense to me. He always has been, and He always will be, and I am safe, loved, and significant.
G.    God is Unchanging (Mal. 3:6; Js. 1:17).
1.God never differs from Himself. He may on occasion alter His dealings with man in a dispensational sense, but His divine character remains constant. Since God is perfect, He cannot improve and since He is holy, He cannot become worse. God is always the same (Heb. 1:10-12).
2.You cannot improve on perfection. And, if He is perfect, He cannot change for the worse for the same reason. If God ever changed, or ever could change, we could never be sure of anything. So God loves us today! So what? If He could change, He might not love us tomorrow.
3.God cannot change because His very nature is unchanging. Therefore, He can never be wiser, more holy, more just, more merciful, more truthful; nor less. Nor do His plans and purposes change. He is the same yesterday, today, and forever. The apostle James writes that God is “the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness neither shadow of turning” (James 1:17). Malachi writes that “I am the Lord, I change not” (Malachi 3:6).
4.It is not inconsistent for God to change His mind and refrain from judgment when a nation repents. His specific actions might change, but His nature, character, and purposes do not (Numbers 23:19; Exodus 32:14; Jeremiah 18:7–10).
H.    God is Holy (1Pet. 1:16; Hab. 1:13).
1.God is entirely separated from all sinfulness and evil. He is also positively pure and perfect in His moral nature.
2.God’s holiness involves His righteousness and justice.
                                                                     i.            Righteousness: that which God’s holiness demands, the standard which is consistent with His holy nature.
                                                                   ii.            Justice: that expression of God’s holiness to reward good and evil accordingly (Rom. 6:23).
3.Holiness is God's most clearly defining characteristic. We see two dramatic statements concerning the holiness of God in Scripture. One is in the book of the prophet Isaiah, Isaiah 6:1–8.
4.From this passage, we learn why holiness is God's most defining characteristic. This is a vision of the Lord in the temple. God is high and lifted up. Smoke is filling the temple. The whole temple, which was a solid, sturdy building, shook as the angel spoke. This was a terrifying scene. Try to imagine yourself in the picture. What would you do? I would fall to the floor and try to crawl into the nearest crack! It would scare the wits out of me.
This shows us another characteristic of holiness. Not only does it have no sin, it cannot tolerate sin. It cannot be in the presence of sin. It is untouched by sin and untouchable by sin. There is a great gulf between man and God created by sin. God is holy. We are not. That is, until God works in us. When Isaiah repented of his sin God forgave him, which is symbolized in the hot coal touching his lips. When Isaiah repented and had been forgiven, he was accepted into the presence of God.
I.       God is Faithful (Deut. 7:9; Ps. 36:5; 89:1, 2; Lam. 3:22, 23).
1.God’s faithfulness refers to His self loyalty and to that of His entire creation. He will not (indeed, cannot) change his character or fail to perform all He has promised (1Cor. 10:13; Ps. 119:75; 1Jn. 1:9).
2.Faithfulness - dependability, loyalty, and stability, particularly as it describes God in His relationship to human believers. The faithfulness of God and His Word is a constant theme in the Bible. It is particularly prominent in Psalms 89 and 119. God is "the faithful God who keeps covenant" (Deut. 7:9) and chooses Israel (Is. 49:7); great is His faithfulness (Lam. 3:23).
3.It is not surprising that this aspect of God’s nature should also belong to the Messiah, who would be clothed with faithfulness (Is. 11:5) and who is described as the Faithful one (Rev. 19:11), the "faithful witness" (Rev. 1:5; 3:14), and the "faithful High Priest" (Heb. 2:17; 3:2).
4.God’s faithfulness is the source of the Christian’s deliverance from temptation (1 Cor. 10:13), assurance of salvation (Heb. 10:23), and forgiveness of sins (1 John 1:9). He is faithful to His children because He is first of all faithful to Himself (2 Tim. 2:13).
5.God’s faithfulness should be so deeply reflected in the lives of His people (Gal. 5:22) that they can be called simply "the faithful" (Ps. 31:23). The Bible speaks of the faithfulness of Paul (1 Cor. 7:25), Abraham (Neh. 9:8), and Moses (Heb. 3:5).
6.Faithfulness is also expected in Christian believers. Faithfulness to one’s fellowman is seen especially in relation to fulfilling an office. A steward must be found faithful (1 Cor. 4:2), just as Daniel and other persons in the Bible exercised their faithfulness toward God (Dan. 6:4; 2 Tim. 2:2). –Youngblood, Ronald F.: Nelson's New Illustrated Bible Dictionary
J.      God is Merciful (Ps. 103:8-17; 1Tim. 1:13, 16; Jonah 4:2).
1.Mercy is that eternal principle of God’s nature which leads Him to seek the temporal good and eternal salvation of those who have opposed themselves to His will, even at the cost of infinite self-sacrifice. –A. W. Strong
2.God’s mercy is optional, in that he is in no way obligated to save sinners as he is to punish sinners. But he chooses to do so. 

Conclusion:
Knowing these truths about God, how then should you respond to Him?

“Knowing God” begins with believing the truth about Him. If we doubt one of these characteristics, we erode our basis for knowing God. We begin by accepting that these things are true of God. He is loving. He is just. He is merciful. He is all powerful. He is all knowing. He is present everywhere. He has no beginning or end. Accepting the truth of what we know about God is the first step in knowing Him intimately. We learn to know God intimately as we come to see Him act consistently and predictably with these characteristics.
If we truly believed these things about God, it would radically change our attitude and behavior toward Him. We are warmed by these thoughts as we read about them or hear them preached on Sunday morning, but let Monday morning come and there is a distinct shift in our thinking.
Any study of God and theological concepts about Him should influence not only our idea of God, but our relationship with Him. For those who do not know Him, they now have a basis for placing their personal trust in Christ as Savior to enter a faith-based relationship with Him. For those of us who already know the Lord, our fellowship with Him should be enhanced and expanded to enrich our time in this world and those with whom we share life. Our worship, service, relationships, and devotional lives should all be positively impacted by the realities of God we have just surveyed.
A great exercise we could engage in is to take one of these definitions or attributes of God and memorize it. Also commit to memory a related verse reference to strengthen our knowledge of that truth about Him. This will not only help our personal perception of God, but it should influence our faith interactions with Him also. Likewise this information provides us with insights to intelligently communicate what the Bible says and what we believe about God to others. These timeless truths also protect us from false ideas about God and enable us to recognize false forms of worship or systems of theology. 
Another possible learning exercise is to take a truth about God and confess it to Him for a period of one week. Have a “truth of the week.” Each day you simply clear off some space to formally confess this truth directly and prayerfully to God. For example you could say, “Lord, you are here right now with me.” Another expression could be, “Father, you are always faithful.”  Then acknowledge or express to God that reality you have learned and now believe about Him in a spontaneous manner. As you go about your day weave these impromptu expressions of truth into your daily experiences. “God, I know you are holy,” or “God, I believe with all my being that you are all powerful.” Allow yourself to appreciate this characteristic of God and use it to fuel your worship of Him. Praise Him for that particular quality and rejoice in the facts about Him. At the top of a new week choose another perfection of God and do the same exercise again. This practice should help you relate the truths of God to your daily experiences. 

Struggling To Forgive!?


Mark 11:25-26; Eph. 4:31–32


Old hurts cannot be ignored. We must forgive those who have hurt us to obey the Lord, and to prevent personal destruction and spiritual shipwreck. As stated in a related article, an unforgiving heart is an issue that nearly all of us are confronted with along our journeys. An unforgiving attitude that is permitted to take root in our hearts, fester, and grow is both painful and destructive. Some regard it as the essential source of many physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual problems plaguing our society.

The apostle Paul wrote to the Ephesians saying: “Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: [32] And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you. (Eph. 4:31–32)
·                Paul was describing the manifestations of an “unforgiving heart” when he spoke of bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking.
·                An unforgiving spirit goes beyond a temporary unforgiving attitude, which is the period in the life of a Christian between the time a person is hurt and the time he forgives the one who has hurt him.
·                An unforgiving spirit develops when we choose to remain in an unforgiving state toward a person who has wronged us. It is when we opt to hold on to the pain!

An unforgiving heart is summed up in this remark: “I don't think I could ever forgive that” (Stanley). We feel we have been dealt with in such an unjust, harsh, embarrassing, unfair, harmful way that we refuse to let go of the pain.
·                We all must face the fact that we all will be hurt. We have been hurt, are hurting now, or are going to be hurt by somebody in some area. The only way we can insulate ourselves against being hurt is removing ourselves completely from the possibility of love. To risk love is to risk being hurt along this journey.
·                Hurt is unavoidable, but we can deal with hurt. No pain is too deep or too widespread to be beyond the power of God’s forgiveness working in and through us. Being unforgiving is a choice we make with the will, and it is a bad choice.
Today we need to look at three areas related to Forgiveness:
·                Why Can’t I Forgive? (Mark 7:20-23)
·                Why Should I Become Forgiving? (Heb. 12:14-17)
·                Where Do I Begin? (Mark 11:25-26)

I.                  Why Can’t I Forgive? (Mark 7:20-23)
The Reason for an Unforgiving Spirit is a Carnal Heart; until we deal with our lack of spiritual power and grace we will never develop a forgiving heart. People have an unforgiving spirit for three primary reasons.

A.     BECAUSE OF CARNALITY IN THE FORM OF PRIDE.
                                                 1.      Mark 7:20-23, says, “And he said, That which cometh out of the man, that defileth the man. [21] For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, [22] Thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness: [23] All these evil things come from within, and defile the man.
                                                 2.      We simply do not want to forgive because we believe that in some way, forgiving the other person will diminish us (Stanley). We’re afraid that people will think we’re weak, and our pride cannot tolerate such ‘additional humiliation.’
                                                 3.      In other cases, we may not want to admit that we have indeed been hurt, or to confess that we are finding it difficult to forgive. We fear people will look down on us for feeling hurt or for having an area of weakness in our spiritual lives.
                                                 4.      And in still other cases, we may enjoy the attention and consolation that we receive from others who know we have been wronged. To forgive would be to step out of the limelight of their concern (Stanley).
                                                 5.      In all of these cases, our unforgiving spirit stems from pride and saving face with associates. For many people this is a good enough reason for hanging onto an offense against us. Actually such actions only reinforce a highly detrimental stronghold in our lives and contribute to our downfall (Prov. 16:18)!
B.     BECAUSE OF CARNALITY IN THE FORM OF CONTROL.
                                                 1.      Not only carnality at the core of our spiritual expression, but also the need or desire to control life, developments, situations, and even people.
                                                 2.      The Apostle Paul said in Romans 12:19, “Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.”
                                                 3.      Again in Romans 12:21, he said, “Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.”
                                                 4.      This is closely linked to pride, but differs with respect to motives and actions.
i.         To fail to forgive is to harbor a desire for revenge—to make certain that the person who has wronged us is punished according to our standards of what is right and wrong, or according to our standards of what is a fair punishment.  We want to make sure that the person who has wronged us is punished in the way we choose. The only way we can ensure that is to hold on to the person, even if it’s only holding on to the person in our hearts.
ii.       We Refuse to Let Go and Leave the Person in God’s Hands because that requires giving up control in the matter. The desire for vengeance is so strong that we cannot and will not trust even God to handle the matter adequately.


C.     BECAUSE OF CARNALITY IN THE FORM OF IGNORANCE. Paul, the apostle, tells us in Colossians 3:12-13, toPut on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; [13] Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.”
                                                 1.      Evidently the Believers required such knowledge and instruction to improve the quality of their interpersonal relationships. If they understood these matters, they had failed to employ this biblical strategy. Either way ignorance is the problem!
                                                 2.      Some People Don’t Know How to Respond to Old Hurts and Painful Situations. They have never been taught how to forgive and so they have not practiced forgiveness. Many are plagued with gross misunderstanding about what forgiveness actually is according to the Bible. Obviously they do not respond God’s way to offenses.
                                                 3.      Others Have a Faulty Understanding of What it Means to Forgive.
i.         Though Christ has bridged the gap between us and God so that we are forgiven once and for all, we only experience God’s forgiveness in personal, practical ways as we learn to forgive others from day to day.
ii.       None of us has experienced as great a wrong against ourselves as that which we have all done to God (Matt 18:33). God had to give up his only Son to forgive us; we have nothing to give up but our selfish natures and our unwillingness to forgive those who have wronged us.”The Life Application Commentary Series
iii.      Worldly ideas surrounding forgiveness guide Believers more often than the Word of God and the example of God. Because these often faulty ideas are perpetuated in literature and movies they are a part of our cultural fiber. As a result Christians operate with these worldly assumptions while disregarding God’s motives and model of forgiveness.
                                                 4.      Also, Nonbelievers Find it Difficult to Forgive Others Fully Because They Have Not Experienced Forgiveness from God in Their Own Lives.  This biblical requirement is prescribed in Ephesians 4:31-32 … “forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.”
i.         God's forgiveness to us is the model for our forgiveness of others.
ii.       And in part, it is because of the power of the Holy Spirit in our lives that we are enabled to forgive and release another person fully.
                                                 5.      If You Are Struggling Today with being Unforgiving, Ask Yourself Why You Refuse to Free the Other Person. What compels you to hang on to that hurt and memory? Is it Pride, Control, or Ignorance?
II.               Why Should I Become Forgiving? (Heb. 12:14-17)
We Should Develop a Habit of Forgiveness Because an Unforgiving Spirit Is Extremely Costly to You and Those Around You. Hebrews 12:14-17, Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord: [15] Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled; [16] Lest there be any fornicator, or profane person, as Esau, who for one morsel of meat sold his birthright. [17] For ye know how that afterward, when he would have inherited the blessing, he was rejected: for he found no place of repentance, though he sought it carefully with tears.

Bitterness is the key thought from this passage that relates to our subject of forgiveness. Sometimes bitterness is rooted in an offense or hurt that has not been dealt with properly or God’s way.  The hurt individual can become a “root of bitterness” and thus poison the lives of anyone within their influence.  This means damage in our fellowship with the Lord as well as any relationships we may cherish. This potential should motivate us to cultivate a habit of forgiveness.

A.     OUR HURT CAN CAUSE US TO HURT OTHERS (Heb. 12:15) “many be defiled”
                                                 1.      Our Pride and Our Desire for Control Are at the Heart of Our Trying to Have the Upper Hand over the person who has wronged us, to seek an advantage over the one who has caused us hurt.
                                                 2.      Our Hurt Can Also Cause Us to Take out Our Bitterness and Resentment on Others, even those who may not have hurt us directly. (See also Matt. 18:23–35)
B.     WE HAVE NO REASON TO HARBOR AN UNFORGIVING ATTITUDE (Heb. 12:15)
                                                 1.      Every Believer Has God’s Available Grace. “lest any man fail of the grace of God” The word "grace," refers to all the benefits that God has bestowed on his children. Believers should “diligently” encourage each other to appropriate these blessings, because these will help us remain faithful. Too often we "miss out" because we are not aware of certain of God’s promises, teachings, or guidance.
                                                 2.      No One Has a Right to Harbor an Unforgiving Spirit (Eph. 4:31–32). The Cross strips us of that right. If Jesus Christ—pure, sinless, without guile or any shadow of deceit—died on the cross to forgive you, you have no right or privilege to deny that forgiveness to another person who, in reality before God, is in the same position you have been in: a sinner in need of forgiveness (MacDonald).
                                                 3.      Forgiveness of Others Is Essential. There may be excuses for us to harbor an unforgiving spirit, but no excuse is a justifiable reason before our heavenly Father. He commands us to forgive.
C.     THE CONSEQUENCES OF AN UNFORGIVING SPIRIT ARE MANY (Heb. 12:15). Note these words in Hebrews 12:15, “lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you.”  I’ll list four troubling consequences of an unforgiving spirit:
                                                 1.      You Will Suffer Damage in Your Fellowship with the Lord. The Holy Spirit will continually bring your unforgiving attitude to your mind until you deal with it. You will feel deep restlessness and uneasiness in your spirit until you do. Furthermore, the Holy Spirit cannot empower you as an unforgiving believer. Your ability to minister to others will be stunted.
                                                 2.      You Will Experience Damaged Relationships. You are likely to have relationships marked by anger and fighting—sometimes with what seem to be volcanic eruptions of rage.
                                                 3.      You Will Experience Emotional Bondage. Your memories may torment you, causing you to relive again and again the pain you have experienced. You very likely will find that you have little capacity to love others or to receive love. Intimacy may be difficult for you (Stanley).
                                                 4.      You Will Suffer Damage to Your Physical Being. Unforgiving attitudes put an overload on the nervous system, and eventually, a fuse will blow in some area of your body. The physical body was not designed by God to endure the long-standing stress caused by an unforgiving spirit (Stanley).
                                                 5.      But There Is Good News! You Do not Have to Settle for an Unforgiving Spirit (Eph. 4:31–32).

III.           Where Do I Begin? (Mark 11:25-26)

      You Must Deal with Your Unforgiving Spirit; this is inescapable.  To be responsible with the information you have received you need to develop the discipline of forgiveness.  

A.     NOTICE THE RECOURSE WE MUST TAKE.  The Lord Jesus said in Mark 11:25-26, “And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses. [26] But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.”
                                                 1.      The First Step is Turn to God for Help.  To conquer an unforgiving spirit, recognize your need for God’s help to remove this mountain and the power of believing prayer (Mark 11:20-26). 
i.         I also personally believe that God ministers grace to His people as we abide in prayer before him in utter humility (Prov. 3:34; James 4:6; 1 Peter 5:5).
ii.       Confess to Him that you have harbored an unforgiving spirit. Ask Him to forgive you for your unforgiving attitude.
iii.      Ask Him to release you of the pain as you take these steps. And believe, by faith, that He will do so. Remember His grace is always sufficient (2 Cor. 12:9).
                                                 2.      The Second Step is Identify the Offender.  In dealing with an unforgiving spirit, identify the person or persons who have hurt you. They may be someone you encounter frequently or someone who lives miles away. It may be someone close to you or someone who has died. It is vital that you give a face to your violator and offender.
                                                 3.      Thirdly, Follow The Steps of Forgiveness.
i.         Forgive Them. Because you are in the right, you have power over the other persons. Please don’t abuse that power (Matt. 18:28-33).
a.       Forgiveness and “forbearing one another” are important to relationships because it is inevitable that we will hurt each other (Col. 3:13). We fail. We blow it. This is reality. We are all wounded human beings who wound each other. We cannot have lasting relationships unless we know this and know that we will have to forgive ourselves and the other person (Eph. 4:32; Col. 3:13).
b.       Forgiveness, however, does not mean that we are to pretend that everything is fine when it is not. Forgiveness is not a bandage. It is a process.
c.       Forgiveness involves (1) facing the hurt we have experienced, (2) talking about the hurt, (3) feeling whatever we feel, (4) trying to solve whatever problems are involved, (5) asking for what we need, (6) accepting the other person’s limits and (7) letting go of the hurt and of our demands.
ii.       To Forgive is to Forget.  This does not mean that the memory of an offense against us will immediately disappear, but it does mean we will not bring up the offense again in the future.  It also means we refuse to allow the offenses to control or dominate the relationship.  We reduce it to a nonfactor once it has been forgiven. Though we may still remember what transpired, it exerts no meaningful influence on the relationship.
iii.      Explain That The Violation Must Never Happen Again.  Forgiving others does not mean allowing them to continue to hurt you.
iv.     Remember Their Better Moments. We all have our highs and lows. It takes maturity to treat people according to their best qualities.  It takes love to believe the best for them and about them (Phil. 4:8; 1Cor 13:7, 8).
                                                 4.      Fourthly, Weigh Carefully the Consequences and Choose to Exercise Godly Wisdom.
i.         James 3:17-18 says, But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. [18] And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.
ii.       Choose to be easy to approach and work with and consciously pursuit peaceful relations whenever possible. Be willing to show mercy to others as we all will need mercy from others.
iii.      God will not forgive you as long as you harbor a bitter unforgiving spirit (Mark 11:26).
iv.     Remember Jesus promised we will have the things we utter in prayer (Mark 11:23-25).
v.       Then draw a line between all your pain and the hurt that has occurred in the past. And declare, “By the grace of God, I release them today. I refuse to hold these things in my heart and memory any longer. I choose to be free of the pain they have caused me.” (Stanley)
                                                 5.      Trust the Lord to Help You.
i.         Choose to take a new direction in your life, one that is free of pain and bondage associated with old hurts and past suffering.
ii.       If you continue to think of things the hurtful party has said or done, do the exercise again. If other people come to mind, release them also. If you have an unforgiving spirit, you may very well need to forgive several people. Deal with each person you believe has hurt you.

B.     NOTE THE RESULTS WE CAN EXPECT. Hebrews 12:14 counsels us to,Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord”.  Peaceful relations and a holy walk before the Lord are priceless outcomes! Life is happier, free, and filled with spiritual riches! The results of taking this act of your will are these:
                                                 1.      Your Memory Begins to Be Healed. You will think less and less often of the offending person, and each time with less hurt.
                                                 2.      You’ll Begin to See the Person You Have Forgiven in a New Light. You are likely to see the person you have forgiven as a sinner in need of God’s forgiveness, and you likely will have more compassion for him or her.
                                                 3.      You’ll Begin to Experience Freedom in Your Emotions and in Your Ability to Relate to Other People. You are no longer in bondage to that person and you are likely to feel free to relate to other people more readily. If you have been afraid to risk loving another person, you likely will have the courage and strength to take that risk.
                                                 4.      You May Also Experience Reconciliation with the Person You Have Forgiven. That is not always the case, but sometimes it is possible for there to be a coming together again in friendship or love (Stanley).

Thus through the previous article “Forgiving is Liberating” and this one we have considered five areas related to forgiveness:

I. Forgiveness is Setting Someone Free (Luke 7:39-43)
II. An Unforgiving Spirit Is Hatred (Luke 6:27-31, 35-37)
III. The Reason for an Unforgiving Spirit is Carnality (Mark 7:20-23)
IV. An Unforgiving Spirit Is Extremely Costly (Heb. 12:14-17)
V. You Must Deal with Your Unforgiving Spirit (Mark 11:25-26)

Those who receive forgiveness from God are expected to extend forgiveness to others. And those who extend forgiveness to others are in a position to receive God’s forgiveness. Jesus said so in Mark 11:25–26. The challenges of life sometimes reveal to us that we have not forgiven others, and therefore, we must stand in our own sin and are subject to its consequences, which are never pleasant.
The Lord calls us to willingly forgive others. When we forgive those who may have wronged us, we are in an advantageous position to receive forgiveness from the Father.
To fail to forgive is to harbor resentment, which can grow into bitterness, which in turn always brings us into adverse relationships with others. To fail to forgive is also to harbor a desire for revenge—to make certain that the person who has wronged us is punished according to our standards of what is right and wrong, or according to our standards of what is a fair punishment. The Scriptures teach that we are to leave vengeance to the Lord and not take it upon ourselves (Rom. 12:19). Anytime we attempt to act as the judge, jury, and law for another person, we are in danger of being judged ourselves.
Again, if you choose to remain in an unforgiving state, the effects are like a slow poison that works in the soul and spirit (Stanley). An unforgiving spirit is always corruptive, destructive, and degenerative. Choose to be free of the bondage associated with an unforgiving heart. Choose to forgive!



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