Refuse to Retaliate

 

1 Peter 3:8-12 

SUBJECT: The Glory Inherent in Christian Suffering

THEME: Christ will turn our suffering and unfairness of today into triumph and glory for eternity because we are called to bless others.

INTRODUCTION: No doubt you have been treated unfairly by careless Christians, relatives, or unfortunately close friends. I am also sure it left you hurt, confused, disconcerted, and angry. No doubt a part of you wanted to get back at them…to make them feel what pains you felt! Perhaps you wondered how much longer you could endure the hardships you were facing…not sure if you could take anymore. It may be that you seriously wished that life was all over, and you were already with Jesus…never to suffer again. These are the real feelings and puzzles we grapple with…part of troubled hearts…. God has addressed these real issues to guide Believers’ actions.

Believers are to be like-minded, sympathetic, tenderhearted, and courteous, which means they are to be humble-minded, not trying to lord it over one another. This is to be the attitude and action of a believer among other believers.^[a]

The Lord Jesus expressed these same ideas about showing mercy and kindness instead of getting even or retaliating against those who wrong and abuse us.

Matthew 5:43-48, Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy. ⁴⁴ But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; ⁴⁵ That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust. ⁴⁶ For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same? ⁴⁷ And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so? ⁴⁸ Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.

Luke 6:27-33, But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, ²⁸ Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. ²⁹ And unto him that smiteth thee on the one cheek offer also the other; and him that taketh away thy cloak forbid not to take thy coat also. ³⁰ Give to every man that asketh of thee; and of him that taketh away thy goods ask them not again. ³¹ And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise. ³² For if ye love them which love you, what thank have ye? for sinners also love those that love them. ³³ And if ye do good to them which do good to you, what thank have ye? for sinners also do even the same.

The key our Lord submitted was that of showing mercy and kindness to the most undeserving refusing to retaliate, but instead going the extra mile to act like we are govern by principles rooted in who we actually are from God’s vantage point. As a result, we bless and not curse, we give grace and not deserts, and we express kindness instead of retaliating. Such actions are consistent with our calling as Believers…people who are summoned to bless should bless everyone and anyone regardless of what happens to us. Peter also subscribes to this kind of thinking and behavior. 

Message:

BE SUBMISSIVE TO CHRIST AND BE GENEROUS TO FELLOW BELIEVERS (1Pet. 3:8-12). 1 Pet 3:8-9, Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:

Peter has dealt thoroughly with various groups, Citizens, Servants, Wives, Husbands, and now he addresses them all as a group of Believers.

      A. SHARED OBEDIENCE REGARDING A SINGULAR ATTITUDE (ONENESS OF MIND) Vs 8

In the first two chapters Peter referred to “all kinds of trials” (1:6), accusations of “doing wrong” (2:12), “the ignorant talk of foolish men” (2:15), and “the pain of unjust suffering” (2:19). All these persecutions seem to have resulted from the natural reactions of a pagan society against Christians who faithfully obeyed Jesus Christ.

Peter then warned that a time of more severe persecution and suffering was close at hand. He cautioned Christians to keep clear consciences when facing injustice, to endure the inevitable suffering with Christlike courage.^[b]

We as believers will not see everything in the same fashion.  We won’t agree on everything, but we should have a singleness of heart and oneness of mind. We should remain focused on Christ! The best formula is contained in the well-known expression: “In Fundamentals, unity; in non- essentials, liberty; in everything, love.”

             1. Our minds should be focused on becoming more like Christ.

             2. Our minds should be focused on living holy, righteous, and pure lives.

             3. Our minds should be focused on bearing spiritual character and fruit.

             4. Our minds should be focused on carrying out the ministry and mission of Christ to the world.

      B.  SHARED OBEDIENCE REGARDING COMPASSION Vs 8

Literally, this means to suffer with and this admonition is especially appropriate when given to those undergoing persecution.  We as believers are to:

           1. Suffer with those who are suffering

           2. Weep with those who are weeping

           3. Rejoice with them who have been honored

           4. Understand the pressures of a leader when he leads

           5. Grieve with the sorrows of others.

Real compassion will build unity in a church! These are the things that REAL CHRISTIANS do for each other from the Heart.

      C. SHARED OBEDIENCE TO LOVE, TENDERNESS OF HEART AND COURTESY Vs 8

We as believers must develop a real sensitivity and genuine affection for each other.  We should be the kind of Christians that will deny ourselves for someone else benefit.  We should experience such real love and pity that we are moved to act, help, comfort, support and solace with all humility of heart.

Love as brothers. An unknown author writes:

Providence does not ask us whom we would like to be our brethren—that is settled for us; but we are bidden to love them, irrespective of our natural predilections and tastes. You say, “That is impossible!” But remember that true love does not necessarily originate in the emotions, but in the will; it consists not in feeling but in doing; not in sentiment, but in action; not in soft words, but in noble and unselfish deeds.

Tenderhearted means having a heart sensitive to the needs and feelings of others. It refuses to turn cold, callous, or cynical in spite of abuse.

Courteous—It seems so proper that courtesy should be taught as one of the Christian virtues. Essentially it means humbly thinking of others, putting others first, and saying and doing the gracious thing. Courtesy serves others before self, jumps at opportunities to assist, and expresses prompt appreciation for kindnesses received. It is never coarse, vulgar, or rude.^[c]

      D.  SHARED OBEDIENCE REGARDING BLESSING Vs 9-10

Mutual Christian submission is not characterized by backbiting but with blessing! We are not people with a spirit of retaliation towards those who do us evil; we instead look to be a blessing.  We do not fight with the weapons of hate and evil but with the weapons of love and righteousness.  We are not overcome with evil, we overcome evil with good!

              1.  The Lord Jesus Christ Taught This Concept.

Matt 5:39, But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.

Matt 5:45, That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.

Luke 6:35, But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil.

              2.  The Wisest Man that Ever Lived (King Solomon) Taught This Concept.

Prov 20:22, Say not thou, I will recompense evil; but wait on the LORD, and he shall save thee.

Ps 37:34, Wait on the LORD, and keep his way, and he shall exalt thee to inherit the land: when the wicked are cut off, thou shalt see it.

Prov 24:29, Say not, I will do so to him as he hath done to me: I will render to the man according to his work.

It takes real faith to believe God through a situation where we are hurting and where we are being treated unfairly, but that is exactly what we are to do. This temptation is amplified by our feelings of fair play. The more justified we feel, the harder it is to refuse to get back at them. But we are not to have a retaliatory spirit; the Lord (His job alone) will make sure that every man gets what he deserves. Rom 12:19-21, Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.  20, Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head. 21, Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.

IN LIGHT OF THESE TRUTHS, WHAT HAVE YOU DONE TODAY THAT ONLY A CHRISTIAN WOULD DO?

-That boss at work did not treat you right or fairly; do you want to get back at him or her for that obvious wrong?

-Your wife didn’t speak to you with the kindness and respect she should have; do you yell and scream back at her to show her failure?

-That Brother didn’t speak to you at church, so now you aren’t going to speak to him anymore. Is this Christian?

-That Sister hurt your feelings by saying something insensitive to you before others; are you going to make sure you hurt her somehow?

Peter is saying, “Grow up and stop acting like little children!” Your calling it to render a blessing!

Peter says that we are to refrain from constantly speaking evil of others. And we are to refrain from speaking “guile,” from being deceptive and not telling the truth.^[d]

        E.  SHARED OBEDIENCE TO PURSUE PEACE AND PRAYERFULNESS Vs 11-12

                1. We as Believers Are to Turn from Evil and Do Good.

‘eschew’ means to avoid evil or to turn away from evil.   Vs 11

                        (a) We should Turn from the evil of Fornication     1 Cor 6:16.

                        (b) We should turn from the evil love for Money    1Tim. 6:9-11

                        (c) We should turn from the evil of Youthful Lust     2Tim. 2:22

                        (d) We should turn from the evil of Retaliation      1 Pet. 3:9

                2.   We as Believers Are to Pursue Peace.  Vs 11

‘seek’ and ‘ensue’ means to chase after or press after peace.  We are not to wait on it to happen we are to get after it and pursue it.

                         (a) The pursuit of peace is a central theme in the Christian life. Peace with God, Peace with self, and Peace with others. Our Mission is also a mission of peace to the world.

                         (b) The pursuit of peace is the responsibility of the believer when we have offended someone or when someone has offended us. Matt 18:15, Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. Also Luke 17:3-4,

IF GOD FORGAVE US THEN WE ARE TO FORGIVE ONE ANOTHER!  WE DO NOT HOLD GRUDGES OR HARBOR HATRED AND WE DO NOT WORK DECEIT AGAINST EACH OTHER!  GIVE THE GIFT OF FORGIVENESS! Matt 6:14-15, For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: 15, But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

               3.  God Will Hear the Prayer of Them That Do Good.   Vs 12

Ps 34:15, The eyes of the LORD are upon the righteous, and his ears are open unto their cry.

Isa 65:24, And it shall come to pass, that before they call, I will answer; and while they are yet speaking, I will hear.                                 

               4.  God Will Not Hear the Prayers of Them That Do Evil.   vs 12

Ps 66:18, If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear me:

We who belong to Christ and are possessed by Him should bring blessing wherever we go and through whatever we do. To be sure, we live in a world in which we are often confronted by evil. Our natural response is to do evil to those who do evil to us. But Peter reminds us of the basis of Christian ethics and lifestyle: we should not render evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, we should do good to those who do evil. In fact, bringing blessing to others is a part of our Christian calling (v. 9).^[e]

CONCLUSION: 

Clearly, these “figures emphasize God’s watchful oversight and careful attention to His people’s needs (cf. 2:25).”^[f]

Beloved, we must disconnect ourselves from any notion of getting even, fighting fire with fire, retaliating, having our pound of flesh, or reacting in kind! This is a worldly approach to unfair treatments, and it destroyed everyone who is involved in some manner and to some degree. We must respond to unfair conditions in love and generosity in doing so we commend the kingdom of God and fulfill our calling as Blessers!

News like this will help us smile through the tears when life hurts the most because we subscribe to a higher and greater purpose! Certainly, we are sacrificed in the process…we are reduced for the time being…we endure shame to our person. But there is something more important than the world’s definition of our pride, dignity, and worth. There will come, no doubt, a day when the Sum of Our Suffering will equal Glory!  Life and many circumstances may be unfair for the moment, and we will endure difficulties, false accusations, mistreatments, unfair results, and hardships. But great will be the reward of the saint that stays true to the Lord through the hard stuff. 

We must therefore conduct ourselves as brothers with compassion and sensitivity one towards the other. We must seek peace and prayerfulness for each other and all men refusing to resort to a spirit of retaliation. Look further to the words and example of our Lord and follow closely in His steps--for He leads to glory with Him.

We must continue to follow God’s instructions for the grieving saints. God will one day vindicate our faith before this wicked generation just as He did with Noah in his day.

When dreams seem to fade in this life, we will still have the hope of the next life with Christ!

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^[a] J. Vernon McGee, Thru the Bible Commentary, electronic ed., vol. 5 (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 1997), 699.

^[b] Roger M. Raymer, “1 Peter,” in The Bible Knowledge Commentary: An Exposition of the Scriptures, ed. J. F. Walvoord and R. B. Zuck, vol. 2 (Wheaton, IL: Victor Books, 1985), 849.

^[c] William MacDonald, Believer’s Bible Commentary: Old and New Testaments, ed. Arthur Farstad (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 1995), 2269–2270.

^[d] J. Vernon McGee, Thru the Bible Commentary, electronic ed., vol. 5 (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 1997), 700.

^[e] Paul A. Cedar and Lloyd J. Ogilvie, James / 1 & 2 Peter / Jude, vol. 34, The Preacher’s Commentary Series (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Inc, 1984), 161–162.

^[f] Roger M. Raymer, “1 Peter,” in The Bible Knowledge Commentary: An Exposition of the Scriptures, ed. J. F. Walvoord and R. B. Zuck, vol. 2 (Wheaton, IL: Victor Books, 1985), 850.

The Leadership of the Spirit

Acts 16:6-10; Rom. 8:14 

To whom do you turn for daily guidance in how to live your life, what to do, where to go, whom to see, how to make decisions and choices? The Scriptures tell us of the most effective Guide. He is the only One who knows our past completely from the moment we were conceived to this present day, knows our future completely, from this day extending into eternity, and knows God’s plan and purpose for us today and each day of our lives. The Holy Spirit offers us excellent leadership for living.

Why Do We Need the Spirit’s Guidance when making decisions?  

Jeremiah 10:23, O Lord, I know that the way of man is not in himself: it is not in man that walketh to direct his steps.

Jeremiah 17:9, The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?  

God is committed to guiding His people into His will.

Psalm 32:8, I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye.

Proverbs 16:1, The preparations of the heart in man, and the answer of the tongue, is from the Lord.

The Holy Spirit guides Christians by putting it in our hearts and minds to do His will and by providentially governing our circumstances. Discovering God’s will is not meant to be mysterious and elusive, a “guessing game,” nor does it require hearing an audible voice. The Spirit is able to lead us by different means (Pr. 20:24).

After the Lord Jesus went back to Heaven, He communicated His will to believers in several ways, through Scripture, visions, prophets, counselors, and circumstances. Since the Bible is complete, God will not use all of these various means today, but He still leads His people into all His will. God will also show you if you should marry Jane or George, go to this college or that university, take that job or this position, relocate to this state or another country, buy that kind of car, move to this home in that neighborhood, and so on.

The Spirit leads submissive believers through the use of the Bible, fasting and prayer, godly counsel, and our circumstances.

Message:

I. Look to the Primary Methods the Spirit Uses to Help Us Make Decisions.

A. Consult the Wisdom of God’s Word (Acts 16:9-10).

1.  GOD SPEAKS THROUGH HIS WORD.

The easiest way He leads is through Scripture. The Holy Spirit may make a passage of the Bible known to us, and that may lead us or guide us.

            A. Expect God to lead you to the Word and through the Word.

John 16:13-14, Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come. [14] He shall glorify me: for he shall receive of mine, and shall shew it unto you.

B. Trust the Spirit to teach the Word and make much of Christ.  A Spirit-taught believer will make much of Jesus Christ as a normal course of life; they will hold Him high in their estimations, trust Him implicitly, preach Him enthusiastically, and adore Him absolutely.

C. Ask Him for a Scriptural Basis or a Specific Passage For Your Needs. Look for New Testament commands especially (1Thess. 5:12-22; Eph. 4:20-32; Rom. 12:9-21). Work on sensing God’s commands.

2. GOD’S WORD OFTEN PRESENTS PRINCIPLES TO LIVE BY.

A principle is a general guideline that helps us live God’s will.  There may not be a direct commandment nor and explicit statement on the matter of consideration. But there is always a principle we can apply to make right decisions. Consider the following verses as they apply to decision-making regarding (Tattoos, nose rings, marriage, weekend trips, the purchase of a boat, a vacation to Hawaii, home remodeling project, ect).

           A.  Does It Bring Glory to God?  

1 Cor. 10:31, Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.

           B. Can We Thank God For it in Jesus Name? 

Ephes. 5:20, Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ;

           C.  Can We Do It in Jesus Name With His Blessings?   

Col. 3:17, And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him.

           D.  Does It Engender Anxiety or Do I Have God’s Special Peace?

Philip. 4:6-7, Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. [7] And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

1. Feelings should be considered last. They are important, but they also can be deceptive. Negative emotions may represent purely psychological struggles. Any difficult decision creates anxious, if not painful, feelings. Imagine what would have happened if Jesus had paid attention to His feelings when He was praying in the Garden? Crucifixion is deadly painful! But in spite of His strong negative emotions, He did the will of God.

           2. On the other hand, positive emotions may simply mean this is something we want to do! This is why feelings must always be tested and evaluated by what God says in His Word.

           3. If you can answer yes to these questions about a decision or choice you are about to make, you are making your decision within the principles of God’s Word: Will God be glorified in this? Can I give thanks to God for this? Can I do this in the name of Jesus, fully expecting His blessing, His provision, and His stamp of approval? When I pray about this, do I sense God's peace in my heart?

We must not simply expect life to just happen. No, live responsibly executing the will of God. On the opposite end of the spectrum, we should not even hint at living independent of God.  He has a way of reminding us that He is essential to life. It is far better to submissively yield, and pursue His plan for us.

B.  Allow the Spirit to Work in Your Heart, Desires, and Motives (Acts 16:6-7).

We don’t know how the Holy Spirit told Paul that he and his companions should not go into Asia (Acts 16:6). It may have been through a prophet, a vision, an inner conviction, or some other circumstance. But, we can be sure the Spirit of God led him and did indeed work in their hearts (Prov. 16:1).

1. GOD’S SPIRIT IS AT WORK IN YOU.

Philip. 2:13, For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure.

   A.  God Helps Us to Know His Will.   Phil.2:13 (Col. 1:9-12)

1.      How to know the will of God can be one of the great challenges of the Christian life, and often one of the

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1.      great frustrations of the young Christian.

a.       God does want us to seek Him even about the details of our lives and even the smaller decisions we make.  

b.      But, God may not give specific and pinpoint guidance from His Word in every little nit picky consideration especially when He has addressed it indirectly by general Bible guidelines.  

2.      We can, however, frequently, prayerfully, and sincerely ask the Lord for a wise and understanding heart regarding specific decisions and responsibilities (1Kg. 3:7-12).

3.      1 Kings 3:8-10, And thy servant is in the midst of thy people which thou hast chosen, a great people, that cannot be numbered nor counted for multitude. [9] Give therefore thy servant an understanding heart to judge thy people, that I may discern between good and bad: for who is able to judge this thy so great a people? [10] And the speech pleased the Lord, that Solomon had asked this thing.

   B.  God's Will Is Always Transformation (Rom. 12:1-2).

He wants us to “be” the right kind of people. If we are the right kind of people, God will find it easy to lead us to do whatever He wants us to do. Typically, however, we are preoccupied with what God wants us to do, uncomfortable just being the kind of person God wants us to be, and resting in His sovereignty to determine what we should do.

   C.  God Provides Guidance By His Spirit!

Nevertheless, the Bible does indicate that God will lead us and guide us, even though we may not feel led or guided. Romans 8:14 says, “For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.” Galatians 5:16, 18 reads, “This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.  Then we read, But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law.” So we see that we are led by the Spirit, or can be, but how? What does that mean?

2. GOD’S SPIRIT WANTS TO MAKE DEEP IMPRESSIONS IN US.

Proverbs 3:5-6, Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. [6] In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

A.     Frequently, Trust God to Plant Inclinations, Thoughts, and Desires In Our Mind To Guide Us.

a.       This is the most subjective and the most dangerous, because it is often difficult to know whether something in our head is our own personal desire, or perhaps even a deception by the evil one. (You will know them by their fruit, Matt 7:16, 20; 12:33; Jn 10:10; 1Jn 4:1)

b.      In such a case, it is helpful simply to retrace the above principles. Also remember by the integrity and righteousness of the upright we will secure God’s guidance (Prov. 11:3, 5).  Sometimes we make decisions based on the godly character God has developed in us.

B.     Frequently Appeal to the Spirit for Guidance Throughout the Day.

1.      As we walk in the Spirit daily, surrendered to His power, we have the right and privilege to expect anything we need to hear from God. The Holy Spirit living within us and speaking to us ought to be the natural lifestyle of believers. We claim His presence, direction, and guidance by faith.

2.      One of the lines of the Lord's Prayer points toward our daily reliance on the Holy Spirit: “And lead us not into temptation; but deliver us from evil.” (Lk. 11:4).  I believe that is how the Holy Spirit guides us in an ongoing way each day. He speaks in our hearts a no to everything that would bring us harm, and thus, He delivers us from evil and away from temptation. He also speaks in our hearts a yes to everything that will bring us blessing.

C.  Devote Yourself To Prayer And Fasting for Direction.

Psalm 5:8, Lead me, O Lord, in thy righteousness because of mine enemies; make thy way straight before my face.   

Psalm 25:4, Shew me thy ways, O Lord; teach me thy paths.  (See also Daniel 2:22; Acts 13:1-3) 

  

            1. The Purpose and the Benefits of Fasting are Spiritual Guidance and Power. Matt. 6:16-18

Jesus fasted and prayed for forty days in the wilderness, and the end result was that He was perfected for ministry (Matt. 4:1–2, 11). Queen Esther fasted and prayed for three days, and the end result was that she was stripped of the fear that kept her from telling the king about the evil plot against her life and the lives of her people (See Est. 4:15–16).

           2.   The Proper Use of Prayer and Fasting.  Matt. 6:16-18

a.       Fasting enables us to bring the body and soul into subjection so that in prayer, a person is focused solely on God and His plans and purposes for that person’s life.

b.      There are times, when God asks us to set aside our natural desires and appetites and concentrate solely on the spiritual dimension of our being. True fasting goes beyond skipping a meal or denying ourselves food for a period of time. It is a turning away from and a willful denying of all natural human desires and appetites so we might concentrate solely on the Lord and what He wants to say to us or accomplish in our lives.

c.       When we are in this spiritual state—completely yielded and submitted, totally humble before Him and reliant upon Him—God can guide us like arrows to accomplish His will. He then can do the real transforming work in our inner spirit that causes us to speak and act more like Jesus Christ.

II. Trust the Spirit to Use Counselors and Work in Your Circumstances.

A.  He Gives Guidance Through Spiritual Counselors.

Proverbs teaches that there is safety in the multitude of counselors. It takes a brave or foolish person to go counter to an abundance of solid, wise counsel.

Proverbs 11:14, Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.   

Proverbs 24:6, For by wise counsel thou shalt make thy war: and in multitude of counsellors there is safety.

     1.  Does your Potential Counselor Qualify to Give Spiritual Guidance?  

The option to turn to other Believers for Advice is one more advantage we have in decision-making!  

Psalm 1:1, Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.

A. Note Some Preparations: Identify your counselors before you need their advice.  Like the president, select your cabinet members in advance and ensure they are fit counselors.  You don’t need 20, perhaps five capable individuals will be enough. 

B. Note Some Considerations: We have Christians around us who love us and desire the best for us.  Christians who have a fear of God and respect for the Scriptures, people of conviction and not convenience.  Folks who obviously love God, and have an outstanding testimony are your primary considerations. People of prayer, who sacrifice for the Lord and His church, who love the Lord, other Christians, the Bible, Preaching, and sound teaching are good options.  (Col. 3:16; Heb. 10:24; 3:13)

C. Note Some Cautions: Moms and Dads may not fit this description; your best friends may not fit this description, and people you are fascinated with may not fit this description. A Psychiatrist or Counselor may not fit this description. If they do not fit this description of a spiritually healthy believer, then the advice you receive could be spiritually unhealthy for you.

     

     2.  Beware of Christians Who Care More about How You Feel Toward Them Then They Do the Truth.  When we turn to people for advice, we must be aware that in many cases, they will tell us only what they think we want to hear. They likely desire to make us feel good so we will like them more, which in turn makes them feel good. If you seek advice from another person, get advice that is honest, true to God's Word, and without ulterior motive.

                              

     3.  Consider Christians Who Are Successful In the Areas You Require Insight.  Certainly Godly Christians will be honest and able to share pros and cons with you. 

        A.  Finances.  Consult with people who manage their financial life well, whom God is obviously number one in their lives (Matt. 6:24, 33; 1Tim. 6:6-11). 

        B.  Parenting. Turn to good parents who understand their responsibility to God (Eph. 6:1-4; Ps. 127).  Consult with parents who recognize the importance of Instruction, Training, Correction, and Discipline (Deut. 6:4-7; Prov. 20:7; 22:6; Eph. 6:1-4; 2Tim 3:16-17).

        C.  Marriage. Consult with Christian Couples who understand that marriages must be based on Gen. 2:18-25; Eph. 5:21-33 and good Christian Character (Col. 3:18-19).

        D.  Separation. For Christian Living matters consult with Believers who understand the difference between moral and amoral issues (1Cor. 6:9-20; 2Cor. 6:14-18).

        E.  Devotion. For insight on your devotional life, talk with Believers who enjoy the Bible consistently and love the Word of God.  Avoid those who only bring their Bibles to church, but never read it any other time (Hab. 2:1; Matt. 7:24-27; 2Tim. 2:15).  Be sure to avoid those who have great knowledge, but no discipline to live the truth— false teachers (2 Pet. 2:12-19).

B. He Gives Guidance In Our Circumstances.

Of course, another way God leads is by providentially governed circumstances. If circumstances prohibit you from doing something, you know it is not the will of God. He is not leading you into someplace where He makes it impossible to go. Consideration of circumstances is not primary, but it is still a means God uses to show us His way in a given decision.

      1. A Biblical Illustration.

Acts 16:6, Now when they had gone throughout Phrygia and the region of Galatia, and were forbidden of the Holy Ghost to preach the word in Asia,

Romans 1:13, Now I would not have you ignorant, brethren, that oftentimes I purposed to come unto you, (but was let hitherto,) that I might have some fruit among you also, even as among other Gentiles. (See also Rom. 1:10; 15:20-29; 1 Thes. 2:15-18; 1 Cor. 4:17-21)

      2.  A Biblical Declaration.

The leaders of the early church relied on the Holy Spirit to give them this kind of specific, personal guidance, and we are wise to do likewise. Both Romans 8:14 and Galatians 5:18 refer to our being “led by the Spirit.” This is considered to be the norm of the Christian life.

      3.  A Practical Examination.

We must ask ourselves the following Questions: “Does it make good sense?” “Is it logical and rational?”  “How will this decision affect my family?”  How will it affect us spiritually?  Will we continue to Mature in the Lord?”  “What are the advantages and disadvantages?”

Circumstances should not be the sole basis for your decision, but they are important in determining God’s will. Circumstances can sometimes offer the information we need to better understand God’s will.  Sometimes God wants us to maneuver around our circumstances, and yet other times he wants us to stand still and see what He will do for us. He always wants us to consult with Him. God can even lead us on issues where the scriptures are silent.

Be very careful when looking at the circumstances when making decisions. We still walk by faith and not by sight. This is what the Lord requires and it is pleasing to Him (Heb. 11:6). Just because it seems bigger, better, faster, more prestigious, more beneficial financially, or even illogical does not necessarily or automatically mean that it is God’s will.

When we knew that God wanted us to go back to Germany as missionaries we sought out counsel from missionaries and pastors in Germany to better understand the need for Military churches. Germany had experienced a great draw down and we knew that the need was not as great as before. It didn’t make complete sense to us to pursue a ministry to Germany. We needed counsel.  We talk to former missionaries to Germany, and we even planned a survey trip and talked to the preachers there in country, and God basically confirmed his calling upon our lives through good sound counselors in spite of apparent conflicting circumstances.

Conclusion:

God does guide—sometimes through an inner conviction, sometimes through circumstances, sometimes through Scripture or godly counsel. But sometimes we don't have any sense of being led or guided. That does not mean we aren't. It means we are free to make a choice in the Lord. 

When seeking God's will, (1) make sure your plan is in harmony with God’s Word; (2) ask mature Christians for their advice; (3) check your own motives -- are you seeking to do what you want, or what you think God wants? -- and (4) pray for God to open and close the doors as He desires.

The LORD Is My Shepherd!

The LORD Is My Shepherd!

The LORD is My Shepherd; I shall not want. (Psalm 23:1)

Our great God is portrayed as a faithful Shepherd caring for, providing for, protecting, and guiding His sheep.  According to this imagery, we Believers are His sheep, but not dumb, frighten, and passive animals. Instead our prescribed role is one of submissive disciples wisely following our Lord’s faithful leadership. This is the instructive illustration God desires for us to grasp. He wants to lead us into green pastures, beside still waters, and even through the valley of the shadow of death when the time comes. This means life with our Lord at every twist, turn, and fork in the road. His Presence and wonderful company every step of the way is our grand allotment.

Following this reasoning, complications like anxieties related to provisions, worries about the future, or over-wrought concerns over present circumstances are largely out of place. These do not fit Christ's disciples as they dog the heels of Jehovah, our Shepherd! If we often struggle in these areas, it indicates our faith and confidence in the Shepherd is inadequate. Steps must be taken to familiarize ourselves with His leadership and glorious Person. Feeding in the green pastures of His Word with diligence and concentration is the key to dislodging such concerns. The more truth fills our perspectives, the more our hearts assume a posture of rest and repose in His wisdom, power, grace, and love. "Still waters" will characterize our minds instead of turbulent seas; knowing Him brings peace and quiet to the soul of His followers.

Since the LORD is our Shepherd, we "shall not want"! We shall not want for care, provisions, protection, or guidance. Our Shepherd has a firm hand on all these concerns. If we presume to take on these legitimate points of interest independently and move unilaterally without our Shepherd, He will allow deviations for a season. But, why would anyone forsake the leadership and guidance of the Lord Jesus? Actually, a number of reasons come to mind. Perhaps we have come to believe we are missing out on something--pleasure, prosperity, a certain person of interest, or a "great" opportunity for career advancement. Perhaps we think something is missing so we wander off looking for whatever we perceive is missing. We confuse the potency of a desire with legitimacy. Actions are justified merely because the wandering sheep "feels" they need this, that or the other. Many rationalize their actions by the fact that they want something or someone so much; it has to be right or good, they reason. In reality and in moments of sanity, we freely admit that we do not need everything we want! However, in the interest of complete transparency, we all could honestly sing the old hymn, "prone to wander, Lord I feel it, prone to leave the God I love." Though sheep sometimes wander off, real satisfaction is found only with the Shepherd of our souls.

We are much better off living in concert and harmony with the will of our faithful Shepherd! He is always there for us, His sheep. This is because He actually values us. Think about that! And why should His people be faithful to Him? Well, characteristically, His disciples have certain direction, abundant provisions, security in Christ, spiritual satisfaction, and peace flowing like a river. In addition, we a privileged to walk with our Shepherd to enjoy His company every day. What could be better than life with God? Beloved, this is an absolutely luxurious spiritual provision! Though we are completely dependent on our Shepherd LORD, we enjoy the journey as we follow Him. There really is no good thing that we stand in need of. Why not forsake the life plagued with fears and anxieties by consciously choosing to follow the Divine Shepherd.

Can I Be Sure I Am Spirit-Filled?

One of the misconceptions characteristic of certain movements, but is not based on the Bible is that there is a special “feeling” or a certain "sensation" associated with being filled with the Spirit. As a result many are seeking, expecting, and requiring something God did not promise. When there is a discrepancy between our practice and biblical Christianity, it is wise to return to the Scriptures to examine them directly and closely to discern where we deviated. So, let us discover what the Bible teaches we can expect when we are filled with the Spirit of Grace. Accordingly, we will realize the genuine features of the Spirit-filled life! Scripture paints a picture of Believers who are available, experience joy, are grateful, and desire to submit and minister to others. Let us read God’s Word carefully together noting precisely what Paul wrote,

And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit; 19, Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; 20, Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ; 21, Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. (Eph. 5:18-21).

If I understand this brilliant portion of the Word correctly, Spirit-filled Believers are at God’s disposal and under His control, have a song in their hearts to the Lord’s pleasure, and possess a truly grateful attitude. They habitually engage in mutual ministry to honor the Name of the Lord, and they submit and cooperate in relationships while walking in a palpable fear of God. In addition to these observations, we note that the above passage presents the command to be filled, and it affords in the following verses what a Spirit-controlled life looks like. Therefore, we have clear teaching on this in one context; this is a perfect text from which to draw our conclusions. Now let us consider the main thrust of this passage verse by verse. As we seek to answer the question: what is the evidence of being filled with God’s Spirit? Can I actually know I am under God’s control?

Controlled by and Available to God (v. 18).

The Spirit-filled life means that the Christian is yielded to God's control and we are available for the execution of His will. Such believers are particularly obedient to the Scriptures and enjoy holy power as they walk in obedience to God. As you know, the flesh or the Holy Spirit can dominate us. When the Spirit is in control, we will evidence a character much like that of our Lord Jesus (Gal. 5:22, 23). When we are dominated by the flesh, we will be self-seeking and self-gratifying in our actions and motives (Gal. 5). Like wine affects and controls a drunk, so the Spirit of God influences and controls the yielded Believer. Like wine, the Spirit affects our walk and talk; He gives a boldness we normally do not have and our entire demeanor is transformed. Unlike wine, the Spirit does not impair our vision or ability to function. He actually improves our proficiency and effectiveness. Certainly it is better to be drunk with the Spirit of God than to be drunk with wine! How much better for us to be Spirit-filled followers of Christ!

Yes, Spirit-filled Christians are at God's disposal. They are unequivocally available to Him for the execution of His will. Being so available is an act of complete faith and trust in the guidance and leadership of God. His purpose is paramount and supreme. We need never doubt His designs as He leads us into His plans for each day. The examination question we must ponder then is this: Am I completely available to God to become, embrace, and do whatever He wants?

Joyful Expressions (v. 19).

The Lord made it abundantly clear that Spirit controlled believers are joyful people. Discouragement, frustration, some forms of depression, and a rather down cast attitude are incompatible with a life solidly influenced by God-centered joy. Though we experience hardness like others, we have the strength that joy affords to sustain us (Neh. 8:10). Joy actually works or is most influential in the soul when our faith in the Lord is strong or resilient (Ps. 28:7, 8). If there is great confidence in our Lord then there will be great measures of joy! Such joy abounds in the heart and soul of the Believer who is yielded to the Spirit of Grace. It is the type of joy that is spiritual or rooted in our relationship and spiritual fellowship with God. Fellowship with God nourishes faith and increases our joy levels (1 Jn. 1:1-4). Holy joy does not necessarily stem from happy circumstances or positive developments; it is steadfastly anchored in the LORD GOD. The constancy of our Lord brings emotional and spiritual stability to the Believer's heart--the internal climate of his or her soul. Often the joy of the Lord in our hearts issues into songs of praise expressing delight in Him as our Savior and Captain. This is extremely normal and positive evidence of a Believer walking in the Spirit's power. Therefore, sing unto the Lord a new song! The examination question we must ask ourselves at this juncture is: Is my faith generating joyful impulses and songs to the Lord even in difficult times?

Always Grateful (v. 20).

Giving thanks to God always and in all things is another evidence of the Spirit's control in our lives. Ingratitude and a culture of entitlement seem to go hand in hand. The demands for more stuff, for rights, for benefits, for privileges, and social justice have just about stamped out the smoldering embers of gratitude and appreciation in our culture. Genuine thankfulness is expressed, or observed, or received, or given so very rarely! I too have a natural disposition to complain first instead expressing a grateful heart…I know…it really is awful. So whenever I am dominated by thanksgiving and gratitude instead, I know automatically that the Spirit is having His way with me relatively unhindered. M. Anders understood this well stating,

Having 20/20 spiritual sight, the Spirit-filled heart is thankful. If we understood how perilously our lives hang in the balance as we go about our daily routine, if we understood how vigorous the spiritual warfare is around us, if we understood how fortunate we are to have food on the table, a roof over our heads, and clothes on our backs, if we grasped how dependent we are on the common grace of God and the goodness of others for our basic necessities in life, we would be grateful people. We would be grateful for what we do have, rather than ungrateful for what we do not have. If we truly grasped our sin, and that it is because of the Lord's mercies that we are not consumed (Lamentations 3:22), yes, we would be more grateful.

Thankfulness can be cultivated by noting the Person of God and praising Him for who He is. We can progress further by appreciating what He has done, is doing, and what we anticipate he will do. Most importantly, we must invite the Spirit of Grace to so influence our hearts that we express gratitude habitually. The question we must employ to examine ourselves is: Am I marked more by complaining or appreciating?

Cooperative and Submissive (v. 21).

Spirit controlled Believers are cooperative and exercise a healthy form of mutual submission. As Christians, we are not to participate in the worldly posturing for position and power so prominent outside of Christ. We are to supernaturally live submissively. In collaborative projects, we must discern God's will and gladly allow the best ideas to win out. We are to enthusiastically throw all our energy behind the best ideas to see God's will through to completion. It is vital that we submit to God’s will as it is discerned from the Word and through the team’s efforts. 

Mutual ministry also involves Believers giving and receiving ministry from each other. This facet is clearly identified with Spirit-controlled living. Meaningful and practical help and assistance is afforded in authentic Christian climates and culture. There is counseling and listening; discipleship and admonition characterize these exchanges at times. There is singing to instruct, inspire, and inform. In this healthy spiritual context, Christian interactivity results in mutual edification and maturation. Each believer is responsible for making valuable contributions into the lives of the other. Those who are filled with the Holy Spirit sense the importance of mutual ministry. We must understand that we are part of a larger whole, and we see the need for unity with the Head and the church body of which we are a part (Anders). To examine yourself, ask this question: Am I a lone ranger or a team player?

With these ideas in mind, we must take the self-examination seriously. While this article is not a comprehensive treatment of this subject, it is an adequate start. It is extremely important to God that His children are people under the control of His Spirit. No other lifestyle is acceptable! Actually, this is the best life possible on this side of eternity. I am not at all suggesting such a lifestyle is easy, but I am stating it is God's practical, yet profound prescription. It behooves us then to not only understand the Christian life, but to live it out with great power. We need not be confused by movements and sensationalism that is devoid of truth. We can know whether or not we are Spirit-filled people. Measure yourself with the Word and these simple thoughts, and then walk in the power and confidence of the Spirit of Grace.  

First photo was originally shared by Lee Hyunra to Beautiful Pictures Google+ Community.

Last photo was originally shared by Lino Santos to Nature Google+ Community. It depicts the

sunset of Madeira Island, Portugal.