GENESIS 2:18-25
SUBJECT:
THE FOUNDATION OF MARRIAGE
THEME: We
must Return to the Lord’s Plan and Design for the Help of Our Marriages and the
Preservation of Our Culture. God’s Plan Is over 6, 000 Years Old,
but it Still Holds out the Light of Hope and Fulfillment in this Age Darkened
by Family Confusion and Social Corrosion.
RELEVANCE:
Is
There Any Hope for the Institution of "Marriage"? Some experts are saying
that marriage as we now know it is on the way out. As divorce rates continue to
climb, or at least stay at incredibly high levels, many people, in and out of
the church, are growing doubtful about marriage. Even for seemingly
"perfectly matched" couples, marriage has become more of a risk and
curse instead of a blessing (H. N. Wright).
INTRODUCTION:
What is
Marriage? Marriage
is an exclusive relationship in which a man and a woman commit themselves to
each other in covenant for life, and on the basis of this solemn vow become
“one flesh” physically (Gen. 2:24; Mal. 2:14; Matt. 19:4-6). Christian
Marriage involves two Christians, a Covenant of Commitment to each other,
physical consummation of the union, and commitment to God’s plan for marriage.
Marriage is a gift from God, and it was not just for convenience, nor was it
brought about by any culture. It is wonderfully the Creator’s idea and He gave
instructions to His creatures regarding it administration.
Many of
the problems couples face in marriage persist because of ignorance, lack of
diligence, or a failure to adhere to these basic spiritual principles of
marriage. There are five major changes taking place in the
institution of marriage today:
·
A
decline in understanding between marriage partners.
·
Acceptance
of the new morality, which is replacing Judeo-Christian values.
·
The
spread of secular humanistic philosophy, which rivals Christian truth.
·
The
loss of determination to stay married.
·
The
development of unrealistic marriage expectations.
LESSON:
FIVE
CHANGES PLAGUING MARRIAGES.
A. Decline
of Understanding and Lack of Communication Go Together. Many couples
today lack the kind of communication skills that produce the
understanding necessary for a marriage to grow strong, or even exist.
1.
Learn
to Talk to Achieve Understanding. Understanding in a marriage doesn't mean that there
are no differences. It does mean that you and your mate are able to talk about
the differences and come to an understanding of each other's views. Mutual
submission enables a couple to practice this form of communication (Eph. 5:21;
1Pet. 5:5). You are able to accept the fact that your partner was raised in a
different fashion and because of that will react differently than you. Just
because something was done in a certain manner in your home when you were
growing up does not mean that it has to be done that same way in your new home.
2.
Learn
to Talk To Adjust to Each Other.
a.
Two
people who love one another but are unable to understand each other suffer
pain—a continual biting pain in their relationship. Understanding may not come
easily, but a willingness to share views, to see the "other side
of the question," to talk things out can help a husband and wife
adjust and adapt to their honest differences of opinion.
b.
ILLUSTRATION: Someone
has likened this adjustment to two porcupines who lived in Alaska. When the
deep and heavy snows came they felt the cold and began to draw close together.
However, when they drew close they began to stick one another with their
quills. When they drew apart they felt the cold once again. In order to keep
warm they had to learn how to adjust to one another.
B. Acceptance
of the New Morality, which is Replacing Judeo-Christian Values.
1.
Moral
refers to ideas of right and wrong behavior along with good and bad
motives. The ‘old morality’ was based on the Bible and the Ten
Commandments. However, the new morality rejects this absolute standard for
relativism, situation ethics, and whatever makes you happy. Remember, Paul
warned Timothy of the perils of deceivers and false doctrines and dangerous
philosophies (2Tim. 3:1, 6-9, 13; Col. 2:8).
2.
I
believe the “new morality” is negatively affecting the American family. In fact, this supposed “new
morality” has led to a serious breakdown in traditional Judeo-Christian
morality. People are rejecting the Bible-based standards of moral
behavior and wholly embracing the culture-based standards.
3. Because the culture-based standard of morality relaxes sensual prohibitions and eliminates sexual taboos, society is now suffering the consequences. In fact this ethical shift has resulted in a tremendous increase in sexually transmitted diseases (STD), illegitimate births, and abortions. No-fault divorces create millions of single-parent families that have inherent difficulties. Single mothers entered the workforce by the millions and latchkey kids have become a national concern. Homosexual behavior, palimony, family violence, date rape, pornography, sexual harassment, drugs and alcohol addictions, alternative family lifestyles are some of the additional problems resulting from the disintegration of traditional morality.
C. The
Spread of Secular Humanistic Philosophy, which Rivals Christian Truth.
1.
What
is secular humanism. A
good working definition of secular humanism can be found in Webster’s
Dictionary, “a system of doctrines and practices that reject any
form of religious faith and worship.”
a.
The
term secular humanists has been used to identify those who would remove
religious influence from the institutions of American society—government,
courts, education, economics, and media.
b.
In
addition others describe humanists thusly, “In their self-definition God does
not exist, and it is a destructive illusion to believe in him. They
promote a way of life that systematically excludes God and all religion in the
traditional sense.”
c.
It
is “an anti-Christian system of thought that influences every decision and most
of a person’s actions. It is anti-God, anti-moral, anti-self
restraint, and anti-American.”—Tim LaHaye
2.
We
must not confuse humanism for humanitarianism. It is interesting to
note that humanist masquerade as humanitarians, but their belief is actually
anti-human and they are the number one enemy of the traditional family.
a.
A
true humanitarian will promote human welfare and social reform, but secular
humanism inspires destructive relativistic value systems. They
firmly reject monogamous marriage as instituted by God. They fervently
encourage easy divorces, remarriage, serial polygamy, rejection of biblical
authority, situation ethics, hedonism, and extremes forms of women’s
liberation, legalizing abortion, and the elimination of
marriage. This is a literal portrayal of life in the last days as
Paul described it (2Tim. 3:1-5). People are lovers of themselves and
lovers of pleasure!
b.
There
are four basic convictions that distinguish secular humanism from Christian
humanism, “confidence in God and Christ; supernatural world-view; the power of
Christ acting through the church; and incarnational humanitarianism.”
c.
Francis
Schaeffer insisted that the conflict is between the Judeo-Christian view of God
with absolute values of right and wrong and a humanistic system “with only
personal, arbitrary, relative values.” The current conflict between
Christianity and humanism is the age-old struggle between God and Satan, right
and wrong, darkness verses light, sin against righteousness.
d.
God
is the ultimate Final Reality. He is the infinite personal God who
is truly there. To the God of the Bible things are not
neutral. There are definitely absolutes; there is right and wrong in
the world. He authored the Ten Commandments!
3.
Since
secular Humanists control the media, it would be helpful to beware of their
impact. Has television viewing had a negative influence on the
American family? How does it contribute to the violence in American
culture? The
impact of television on the American family is a net negative. Since
television programming is largely influenced by secular humanism, it is a moral
descent from filth, smut, and innuendo to depravity.
a.
It
is their aim to destroy the country’s moral fiber and with it the traditional
family. They manipulate this communication tool to control the way
people think and over exposure to secular input is “dangerous.”
b.
Many
parents use the television as a babysitting method, but this exposes the
children to sex, profanity, and violence. This is one of the leading
causes of aggressive behavior in preschool children according to the National
Institute of Mental Health. In addition the violence viewed on
television is being carried out in the homes, schools, and streets of the
nation. Generally, young people are desensitized to violence; this
is presently a cultural reality in America.
D. A Lack
of Determination to Stay Married Is Seen Today on Every Hand.
1.
Quitting
Marriage is Alarmingly Common and Pervasive. To have had more than one husband
or wife is not considered at all unusual. As one woman filled out an
application for a new job, she came to the question, "Married or
Single?" Her answer: "Between marriages."
2.
Impatience
is a Massive Character Flaw Among Modern Couples. Many enter marriage with the
attitude that if they do not get along they can break the relationship and try
again. Many people are too impatient with their marriages. They do not want to
live "happily ever after." They want to live "happily
right away" and when this does not happen, they bail out. A grand
helping of ‘patience’ would do the average marriage a lot of good and help the
couple endure to finally experience fulfillment God’s way (Js. 1:2-7; 5:7-11;
Rom. 5:1-5).
E. Too
Many Young Couples Enter Marriage Blinded by Unrealistic Expectations.
1.
Young
Couples Want Romance All the Time. They
believe the relationship should be characterized by a high level of
continuous romantic love. As one young adult said: "I
wanted marriage to fulfill all my desires. I needed security, someone to take
care of me, intellectual stimulation, economic security immediately—but it just
wasn't like that!"
2.
Young
Couples Want a Cinderella “Magic.” People
are looking for something "magical" to happen in
marriage. But magic doesn't make a marriage work: hard work
does. When there are positive results in a relationship, it is
because of two people working together one step at a time.
3.
Married
Couples Need to Return to God’s Enduring Plan for Marriage. This brings us back to the
potential of hope, fulfillment, and happiness. What then is a
Christian marriage?
F. Why
should we be concerned about changes in the family? Every one of
us should be concerned about changes in the family because the family does not
exist in a vacuum. It is interrelated with four other basic
institutions of society: religious, economic, governmental, and educational
institutions. Changes in the family will dramatically affect the
others.
CONCLUSION:
The
problem is not the institution of marriage, but our view of Marriage and Family
have greatly departed from God’s original plan. Our generation is
actually watching the death of marriage from a biblical and traditional
perspective. But, God’s Enduring Plan for Married Life still
shines like a beacon of hope to every couple and single alike. The preservation
of the institution of Marriage can only be realized in our culture as we submit
to God’s enduring plan. It’s time for Christian marriages and
families to demonstrate a way of living that is rewarding, meaningful, and
fulfilling. God’s Plan for couples should be evident to the world as it looks
at Christian marriages and families. As we realize God’s plan in our
lives we supply hope to the many others who need direction, counsel, and hope.
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