The First Christmas Dream

Matthew 1:18-25

THEME: Mary the virgin miraculously conceives, and her fiancé, Joseph, receives a visit from an angel. Mary and Joseph are married, and the baby Jesus is born.

RELEVANCE: To assure everyone that Jesus is the legal heir to the throne of David and the promises to Abraham are fulfilled in Him. Christ is the Savior and Messiah King. The question is, is he your Savior? Have you believed on Him for the forgiveness of sin? In addition, God guides His people into the details of His grand will. The question is, can He direct and/or redirect you? Will you abandon your will to embrace His? Before Dr. Martin Luther King had a dream, Jehovah God had one and it includes you and me. 

INTRODUCTION:

Joseph did not divorce his fiancé Mary when he discovered her pregnancy because the Lord revealed the truth to him. Through an incredibly important dream, God showed Joseph the miraculous nature of Mary’s pregnancy and the fascinating divine nature of her baby. All of this is a fulfillment of a 700-year-old prophecy concerning Israel’s promised Messiah’s birth in Isaiah 7:14, which says, “Therefore the Lord himself shall give you a sign; Behold, a virgin shall conceive, and bear a son, And shall call his name Immanuel.”

Jesus is the virgin-born Son of God; in Christ God dwells with humanity! Truly, the conception of Jesus Christ is a supernatural and absolutely unique event beyond human logic or reasoning. There is nothing else like it in all of human history. Because of this, God sent angels to help certain people understand the significance of what is unfolding (see Matt. 2:13, 19; Luke 1:11, 26; 2:9). In this case, an angel appeared to Joseph in a dream. Some dreams function in the Bible as a means to convey God’s message to people. The first Christmas dream tells us of the nature of our Messiah King and the wonder of his conception. It presents us an opportunity to ponder deeply God's grand dream for each of us....

LESSON:

Joseph's Dream Confirms Christ’s Divine Heritage and Virgin Birth (1:20-25)

While this gentle and deliberate man was mapping his strategy to protect Mary, “the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a dream.” As Joseph began to move forward on his decided course of action, God intervened to prevent a major mistake.

THE MESSAGE IN THE CHRISTMAS DREAM (Matt. 1:20-23): GOD REVEALS THE MESSIAH’S COMING

Angels are spiritual beings, created by God, who help carry out his work on earth. They brought God’s messages to people (Luke 1:26), protected God’s people (Dan 6:22), offered encouragement (Gen 16:7), and gave guidance (Ex 14:19). The angel who appeared to Joseph was one of God’s messengers, sent to correct and guide Joseph in his dealings with Mary. So, what was the message in the dream about? (Wiersbe)

It Confirms the Purity of Mary (Matt. 1:20):

Joseph is reassured that Mary’s pregnancy is caused by the Holy Spirit. Notice how God conveys this reality to Joseph.

The Specific Address.

This greeting, “Joseph, thou son of David,” was clearly designed to stir up the consciousness of his royal pedigree and to prepare him for the unusual advent of Israel’s Messiah-King. (MacDonald)

This signified that Joseph had a special role in a special event. The angel explained that Joseph was to take Mary as his wife, for the child was to be in the royal line of David. Joseph, as "son of David," would establish that royal lineage. God has an incredibly significant role for each of us as we partner with him in service and life-purpose.

The Specific Counsel.  “fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife”

Joseph was not to be afraid to take Mary as his wife; no matter what the social repercussions might be. Of course, she was already his wife because they were pledged, but the angel told Joseph that instead of divorcing Mary, he should complete the marriage process and take her home as his wife. Mary had committed no sin. He should have no misgivings about marrying Mary.

The Specific Reason. (1:20) “that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost”

Any suspicions concerning her purity is groundless. Her pregnancy was a miracle of the Holy Spirit. God himself, with her consent, caused this pregnancy, and the child would be very special -- God's Son. Yes, Mary was a pregnant virgin and the baby is God the Son entering the world as the Son of Man. He would also be the fulfillment of prophecy, as described in the next verse.

When facing big decisions, some people freeze with fright. What if I decide wrong? What if I miss God's will? What if . . .? To make good decisions, first take all these worries and put them under God's promise: God cares for you, watches over you, and guides your steps. Joseph came to the best decision he could, but God had other plans and communicated them clearly. Most of our decisions will not be overruled by angels, but that's no reason for lack of confidence. To make good decisions, examine the Word on the subject, pray, evaluate all the options, talk with trusted Christian friends, then act in faith. God is with you, every step.

It Confesses the Person within Mary (Matt. 1:21):

The Angel of the Lord tells Joseph that Mary will deliver a son and his name will be Jesus. In fact, the angel proceeds to reveal the unborn Child’s sex, name, and mission. (MacDonald)

The Gender of this Unique Person.

Mary would bear a Son.  Isaiah 9:6-7, For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace. [7] Of the increase of his government and peace there shall be no end, upon the throne of David, and upon his kingdom, to order it, and to establish it with judgment and with justice from henceforth even for ever. The zeal of the Lord of hosts will perform this.

The Name of this Unique Person.

He was to be named JESUS, (which means “Jehovah is salvation” or “Jehovah, the Savior”). The name Jesus comes from the Hebrew name, Joshua. There were many Jewish boys with the name Joshua (or, in the Greek, Jesus); but Mary’s Boy was called “Jesus the Christ.”  The word Christ means “anointed”; it is the Greek equivalent of Messiah. He is “Jesus the Messiah.” Jesus is His human name; Christ is His official title! Beloved, there is a SAVIOR! (MacDonald)

The Mission of this Unique Person. (1:21)

True to His Name, He would “save His people from their sins.” This Child of destiny was Jehovah Himself, visiting earth to save lost humanity from the penalty of sin, from the power of sin, and eventually from the very presence of sin. From the very start, Matthew explains, to a Jewish audience, that Jesus would not save the people from Rome or from tyranny, nor would he set up an earthly kingdom immediately. Instead, Jesus would save people from sin.  How would Jesus save them from their sins? The answers to these questions will be found in the unfolding story of Jesus’ life, death, and resurrection. (MacDonald)

  

Jesus came to earth to save us because we cannot save ourselves from sin and its devastating and eternal consequences. No matter how good we are, we cannot eliminate our alienation from God. Only Jesus, the Messiah Savior, can do that. Jesus did not come to help people save themselves; he, and he alone, came to be our Savior from the power and penalty of sin. Hell is extremely real, and God’s grace is abundant—Jesus is the only Savior. Why not trust him? This is God's grand dream for you.

This Christmas it would be good to thank the Lord Jesus for his death on the cross for your sin, and then ask him to take control of your life. Believe that he died in your place and for your sin. Trust the truth that he was buried and rose again the third day as he promised. Know that he did all of this to save you. Your new life begins at that moment. Beloved, Jesus came on a mission of mercy to rescue lost and dying sinners from hell and bring us into a righteous relationship with God.

It Concerns the Prophecy about Messiah (Matt. 1:22-23):

This Son, conceived without the aid of a human father, is the fulfillment of Isaiah’s ancient prophecy. Again, in Isaiah 7:14, the great prophet says, “Therefore the Lord himself shall give you a sign; Behold, a virgin shall conceive, and bear a son, and shall call his name Immanuel.”

This Prophecy was Fulfilled. (1:22)

As Matthew recorded these events, he realized that a new era had dawned in the history of God’s dealings with the human race. The words of a messianic prophecy, long dormant, had now sprung to life. Isaiah’s cryptic prophecy was now fulfilled in Mary’s Child! (Luke 1:69-70) (MacDonald)

The Prophecy Was Inspired.  (1:22)

You see, all this was done that it might be fulfilled which was “spoken of the Lord by the prophet.” Matthew claims divine inspiration for the words of Isaiah—the Lord had spoken by the prophet at least 700 years before Christ. This was God’s ancient prediction coming to fruition.

The Prophecy Was Miraculous.  (1:23)

The prophecy of Isaiah 7:14 includes the foretelling of a unique birth (“Behold, a virgin shall conceive”! In addition, think about the name assigned to God’s Son. “Emmanuel” describes who He is— “God with us.” Jesus Christ is God! We find this name “Immanuel” in Isaiah 7:14 and 8:8. The King, then, was a Jewish male who is also the divine Son of God. Immanuel might also be a designation for Christ which will be used primarily in His Second Advent. Note the thoughtfully crafted statement of this truth by the Apostle Paul in 1 Timothy 3:16, “And without controversy great is the mystery of godliness: God was manifest in the flesh, justified in the Spirit, seen of angels, preached unto the Gentiles, believed on in the world, received up into glory.” God does the miraculous to save sinners like you and me. Hallelujah! What an excellent Savior! Amen! God is with us.

THE MARRIAGE FOLLOWING THE CHRISTMAS DREAM (Matt. 1:24-25): JOSEPH TAKES MARY TO BE HIS WIFE AND CHRIST IS BORN.

Joseph facing a difficult choice after discovering that Mary is pregnant, takes her as his wife. Though this may have been humiliating, Joseph chooses to obey the angel’s command to marry her.

Joseph Abandons His Plans. (Matt. 1:24) “did as the angel of the Lord had bidden him”

As a result of the angel’s intervention, Joseph abandons his plan to divorce Mary. He continues to recognize their betrothal until Jesus’ birth! Never fear leaving your designs for your future as you embrace God’s plan.

Joseph Adopts God’s Plans. (Matt. 1:25) “and took unto him his wife”

When Joseph awakes from this dream, he obeys the Lord’s guidance. He violates many national customs by immediately taking Mary into his home rather than waiting till the one-year time period of betrothal to pass. Thinking of what would be best for Mary in her condition, he brought her home and began to care and provide for her. (Walvoord)

We can appreciate God’s miraculous working in both Joseph and Mary. Although God’s actions were beyond their comprehension, and although they may have faced misunderstanding and questioning looks from those around them, Mary and Joseph willingly followed God’s guidance. How willing are we to do what God wants, no matter what? Can we follow God’s guidance without question?

Upon awaking, Joseph did not hesitate. The decision was no longer difficult, because he simply does what he knows God wants him to do. His actions revealed four commendable qualities: (1) righteousness (1:19), (2) discretion and sensitivity (1:19), (3) responsiveness to God (1:24), and (4) self-discipline (1:25). Does this accurately describe you and me? Are we cultivating these excellent characteristics? (Wiersbe)

 

Sometimes we avoid doing what is right because of what others might think. Like Joseph and Mary, we must choose to obey God rather than seek the approval of others.

Joseph Adjusts to God’s Plan. (Matt. 1:25) “he knew her not till she had brought forth her firstborn son:”

To squelch any doubts about the conception and birth of Jesus while Mary was still a virgin, Matthew explained that Joseph had no sexual relationship with Mary until after the birth of this Child, Jesus. Luke (Col. 4:14), records several details surrounding the birth (Luke 2:1-7). (Walvoord)

The statement in verse 25, also refutes the notion that Mary lived her whole life as a virgin; after Jesus’ birth, Joseph and Mary consummated their marriage, and Jesus had several half-brothers (Matt. 12:46). Two of Jesus’ half-brothers were prominent figured in the Jerusalem Church -- James, became the leader, and Jude, wrote the book that bears his name.

Other references which indicate that Mary had children by Joseph are Matthew 12:46; 13:55, 56; Mark 6:3; John 7:3, 5; Acts 1:14; 1 Corinthians 9:5; and Galatians 1:19. Joseph was not the inflexible person that is hard to work with because they must do everything one way. He was agile, nibble, flexible and capable of growing through sound God-given guidance. Are you willingly adjusting to God’s plan for you?  

Joseph Adopts God’s Son. (Matt. 1:25) “and he [Joseph] called his name JESUS”

In taking Mary as his wife, Joseph also took her Child as his adopted Son. This is how Jesus became legal heir to the throne of David. In obedience to the angelic visitor, he called the Baby’s name Jesus. Joseph did everything that God had told him! Thus, Jesus is the indisputable King of Israel and Savior of the world. As Joseph accepted the Lord, why don’t we do the same? After all this is God's dream for you and me. 

CONCLUSION: 

Thus, the Messiah-King was born. The Eternal One entered time. The Omnipotent became a tiny Infant. The Lord of glory veiled that glory in a human body, and “in Him dwelleth all the fullness of the Godhead bodily” (Col. 2:9). GOD IS WITH US! God is still speaking to His people through the written Word of God. Read, study, meditate upon the Bible’s teachings to hear His great Voice. You do not need a dream necessarily to be certain you have heard from God, you can trust the Scriptures implicitly. As God guides respond in faith and obedience as Joseph did. Wonderful dreams, God's dreams, become reality when we live in concert with His plans. 

The Birth of The Messiah King

 

MATTHEW 1:18-25

Jesus Messiah is the virgin born Son of God.  In this incredible passage, Matthew relates the story behind Jesus’ birth, and how God overruled all actions threatening to thwart or skew His plan for our salvation. This Christmas story affords us many reasons to rekindle hope during this season of the year. 

Think for a moment about the term "providence." Providence refers to God's protective and provisional care of all creation.  It is His fascinating work behind the scenes, through angels, and people, regardless of the circumstances. He masterfully governs the universe providentially! He is still able to insert Himself or intervene in meaningful ways today. In fact it is His involvement and presence that gives us real reason to hope. Additionally, by this incredible passage we are assured that Jesus Christ is the Son of God, legal heir to the throne of David, and God’s promises to Abraham are fulfilled in Him. Beloved, this chapter in Matthew accounts for the birth of the Messiah King, Jesus The Lord of Glory. 

Matthew judicially lays before us the foundational proofs that Jesus Christ is indeed the Messiah-King.  He gives us his background, and heritage.  Since Messiah is a divine king, it is needful to demonstrate both his humanity and deity. Matthew anticipated this requirement and opened his Gospel with a careful account of the birth of Jesus Christ and the events that accompanied it. Beloved, this is real history! He presented two vital facts about the King, his human heritage (Matt. 1:1–17) as well as His divine heritage (Matt. 1:18–25). Since royalty depends on heritage, it was vital to establish the Lord Jesus’ rights to David’s throne as the Messiah-King Son of God (Wiersbe).

Furthermore, in this account we find not only a miraculous conception, but also an equally astonishing divine intervention. Yes, God involved Himself and His resources! This is shocking to a generation who characteristically does not "get involved" with other people's business! God's initiatives provide a rich source of instruction about our participating in the providential plan of God.  

Have you ever regret making a decision? If you are anything like me, then you have fervently wished that someone had warned you differently on more than one occasion!  Well, Joseph came real close to abandoning God’s plan for him, but God in his wisdom and providence prevented the grave mistake. Yes, God is a Master at intervention; He influences the outcomes in this account.  Actually He is continually actively perennially governing and preserving all facets of His universe. God guides and compels the cosmos to dance to His music and march to the beat of His drums! He exercises absolute lordship over His creation: everyone and everything depends on Him as the Creator-Sustainer. Because we believe in an all wise, all-powerful, and benevolent God of providence, we reject the ideas of chance, fate, coincidence, fatalism, nihilism, or luck as governors of our lives or futures. This same awesome God desires to direct and include us in the execution of His will—we are people of His destiny.  Joseph’s experience in this account illustrates one possible way all of this can unfold. First, notice...

Matthew’s Declaration of Christ’s Unique Birth (Matt. 1:18)

The facts surrounding this miraculous conception and birth are stated with dignity and simplicity.

The Circumstances Surrounding His Birth (Matt. 1:18)

The Messiah’s Divine Heritage Needed To Be Explained (Matt. 1:18). “Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise” that is it was different from any of the births mentioned in the family tree previously referenced. This birth was so terrifically unique that it needed to be explained! 

The Messiah Was Born of a Virgin Woman Only.   Matthew 1:16 and 18 make it clear that Jesus Christ’s birth was different from that of any other person ever. Joseph was the “husband of Mary, of whom was born Jesus, who is called Christ.” Jesus was born of an earthly mother without the need of an earthly father. This is known as the doctrine of the Virgin Birth. Matthew was pointing out that Joseph did not “beget” Jesus Christ (Gal. 4:4; Gen 3:15). Repeatedly we find the formula: “A begot B.” But now we have the record of a birth without a human father (MacDonald).  Jesus Christ is the sinless Son of God (Phil. 2:5-8)!

The Messiah’s Mother Was Only Espoused to Joseph (Matt. 1:18). No doubt Joseph anticipated all the workings of Hebrew marriage customs. Their marriage was arranged by their parents, and contracts had been negotiated. Since then, they have been considered married and were called husband and wife. It was not time for them to begin to live together, however. Instead, Mary continued to live with her parents and Joseph with his for one year. During this waiting period Mary would demonstrate her faithfulness and purity.  After this Joseph would go to the house of Mary’s parents and in a grand processional march lead his bride back to his home. There they would begin to share a home as husband and wife and physically consummate their marriage. At this point in the text they were only espoused. It relates to our modern engagement.

The Condition of Mary was Discovered by Joseph (Matt. 1:18).

During the waiting period of her betrothal, however, Mary was found to be with child. During this time, the young virgin Mary became pregnant by a miracle of the Holy Ghost. “She was found with child of the Holy Ghost…” An angel had previously announced this mysterious event to Mary in Luke 1:35. Joseph discovered His bride to be was with child! 

The Holy Spirit Crafted and Engineered Jesus’ Conception (Luke 1:26-35).

The Message—in Luke 1:26-31, the angel Gabriel visited a young Jewish virgin named Mary. He told her she would be having a Son. Mary’s obvious question was, “How shall this be, seeing I know not a man?”  Though she believed the promise, she did not understand the performance. How could a virgin give birth to a child? (MacDonald)

The Miracle—to answer her, Gabriel spoke some of the most amazing words ever heard by the human ear: “The Holy Ghost shall come upon thee, and the power of the Highest shall overshadow thee: therefore also that holy thing which shall be born of thee shall be called the Son of God.” (Luke 1:35). What an out of this world fantastic statement! 

First, Gabriel explained that this would be a miracle, the work of the Holy Spirit of God. Joseph, Mary’s betrothed, would not be the father of the child (Matt. 1:18–25), even though Jesus would be legally identified as the son of Joseph (Luke 3:23; 4:22; John 1:45; 6:42). Gabriel was careful to point out that the Baby would be a “holy thing” and would not share the sinful human nature of man. Jesus “knew no sin” (2 Cor. 5:21), “He did no sin” (1 Peter 2:22), and “in Him is no sin” (1 John 3:5). His body was prepared for Him by the Spirit of God (Heb. 10:5) who “overshadowed” Mary. That word is applied to the presence of God in the holy of holies in the Jewish tabernacle and temple (Ex. 40:35). Mary’s womb became a holy of holies for the Son of God! (The Bible Exposition Commentary)

What An Amazing And Touching Scene! An unknown Jewish virgin girl becomes the earthly mother of Jesus Christ, The Lord of Glory, by the miraculous conception of the Holy Spirit.

God Took on a Human Nature. Again the Holy Spirit creatively brought about the physical conception of the Lord Jesus (Luke 1:35). Mary’s Son would be God manifest in the flesh.  No language can elucidate, explain, enlighten, nor explicate the mystery that is shrouded here. This miraculous conception and Virgin Birth of Jesus Christ was necessary because of His divine nature and preexistence (Isa. 7:14; 9:6; Gal. 4:4). From this astonishing beginning, to the bittersweet end, the Holy Spirit was active in and through the life of The Lord Jesus.

But Mortal Man Ignored Christ Incarnation.  People have a hard time appreciating the truly spiritual and the unique holiness of this splendidly supernatural phenomena (1Cor. 2:11-16).  They can only criticize, speculate, discredit, bark at, and cast doubt! Likewise, a cloud of suspicion and scandal hung over Mary. In all of human history there had never been a virgin birth. When people saw an unwed woman who was with child, they had only one possible explanation.  Every child born into the world is a totally new creature. But, Jesus Christ, being the eternal God (John 1:1, 14), existed before Mary, Joseph, and any of His earthly ancestors. There is no human explanation for our Savior's birth; why not accept this divine one!

It is Still Correct to Believe in the True and Living God Who is Skilled in Miracle Making (Luke 1:37; Gen. 18:14; Jer. 32:17, 27; Matt. 19:26; Phil. 3:21). While God is NOT obligated to give miracles just because we want them badly, He is delighted to fire off a few to advance His awesome will!  Since God is able and willing to perform the inexplicable we have hope in every situation in life.  We never face a single day without the hope He inspires by His very presence and providential involvement. God insert Himself in our situations still! Do need some of His providential involvement? 

Joseph’s Distress about Mary’s Pregnancy (Matt. 1:19)

As any of us would expect, Joseph was perplexed, confused, distressed, and broken-hearted. Certainly he felt alone, betrayed, and vexed with this development initially. He felt exactly like we have felt after losing the affections of someone we loved deeply. His heart was broken and his dreams for them were shattered into a trillion irreparable pieces! 

He Felt Betrayed and Deeply Hurt (Matt. 1:19)

He Thought a Trust Had Been Broken.  Understand Joseph is heartbroken, assuming his pregnant wife-to-be has been unfaithful. In reality they had never engaged in marital relations and Mary had been faithful (Matt. 1:20, 23).

He Felt His Plans were For Ever Lost.  One can only imagine how confused, perplexed, hurt, and possibly angry he must have been. He genuinely loved Mary, and yet the word came that she was expecting. His dreams, goals, and plans for them were ruined and shattered! The sharpness of this apparent gross violation had been thrust through His aching soul! 

He Assumed The Worst Case Scenario! Joseph was planning to act on a faulty assumption! Though it is difficult, we must resist the temptation to jump to conclusions, get the whole story, wait and observe with fairness and discretion, remember to use objectivity, and make wise decisions free of emotional confusion (Prov. 18:13; Duet. 13:12-14; Jn. 7:51). Avoid making emotionally charged and hasty decisions. They almost always abandon God's will and plan for us!

He Decided to Reject and Put Mary Away (Matt. 1:19)

He Wanted to Act Discreetly. Not wanting to disgrace Mary, he determines to break their engagement secretly. To the Jewish people in that day, betrothal (engagement) was equivalent to marriage—except that the man and woman did not live together. They were called “husband and wife,” and, at the end of the engagement period, the marriage was consummated. His love for Mary and desire for justice led him to decide to break the betrothal by a quiet divorce. If a betrothed woman became pregnant, it was considered adultery (see Deut. 22:13–21). Unfaithfulness on the part of the betrothed was punishable by death. 

But, should not Joseph look up to God before he leap? Joseph, does your life plan correspond to God’s plan? It would be wise to seek God and wait for His direction before making a hasty decision (Ps. 27:14; 37:34; Prov. 20:22).

Waiting is Never Easy; especially when we feel pressured to make a decision. Some argue that we figure out what the loving thing to do is—and simply do it. But is it safe or right to act without a sense of acting in God’s will?

·                    Abraham could not wait for God to keep His promise of a son, and the result is the Arab/Israeli hostility that even today tears the Holy Land apart.

·                    Jacob chose to lie to obtain a blessing already promised him, and spent years separated from his family.

·                    The impetuous Peter was often rebuked by the Lord for his hasty actions.

·                    Even godly people like Peter and King Josiah can and do run ahead of God. How important that we learn to rely on the Lord, and wait prayerfully and confidently for His timing.

Should not we all thank God for His wisdom not only in planning good for us, but in knowing just how and when to bring that good to pass.

He Tried to Balance Fairness and Compassion (Matt. 1:19)

He Felt Divorcing Her Was a Just Decision (Justice). Accordingly, “being a just man” Joseph possessed a strong sense of right and wrong! Joseph did not yet know the true explanation of Mary’s condition. He might have been indignant at his fiancée on two counts: First, her apparent unfaithfulness to him; and second, though innocent, he would almost inevitably be accused of improper involvement. People would naturally imply He was involved somehow. 

Joseph keen sense of justice and right-ness raises a noteworthy emphasis here. We need more believers with a strong sense of “right and wrong” in our day of ultra tolerance for sin and wickedness. Genesis 6:9, These are the generations of Noah: Noah was a just man and perfect in his generations, and Noah walked with God. Mark 6:20, For Herod feared John, knowing that he was a just man and an holy, and observed him; and when he heard him, he did many things, and heard him gladly. Luke 2:25, And, behold, there was a man in Jerusalem, whose name was Simeon; and the same man was just and devout, waiting for the consolation of Israel: and the Holy Ghost was upon him. It is clear that he had not been involved in an unrighteous sexual relationship.  To Joseph that was definitely wrong behavior!

He Felt Preserving Her Was A Compassionate Decision (Mercy)—“not willing to make her a public example”. He wished to avoid the public disgrace which normally accompanied such an action.  He chose not to create a public scandal by exposing her condition to the judges at the city gate. Such an act could have resulted in Mary’s death by stoning (Deut. 22:23-24). His love for her enabled him to shield and protect her in spite of the pain in his own heart. This demonstrated how big this MAN Joseph was. There is no wonder why God trusted him with raising Jesus His Son! 

Christ is the Best Model of the Husband’s Role as Protector.  Ephes. 5:23, For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Consider what Barnes said regarding this peculiar statement.

“The idea here seems to be, that as Christ gave himself to save his body, the church; as he practiced self-denial and made it an object of intense solicitude [consideration] to preserve that church, so ought the husband to manifest a similar solicitude [care] to make his wife happy, and to save her from want, affliction, and pain. He ought to regard himself as her natural protector; as bound to anticipate and provide for her needs; as under obligation to comfort her in trial, even as Christ does the church. What a beautiful illustration of the spirit which a husband should manifest is the care which Christ has shown for his "bride," the church!”—Barnes’ Notes

In addition, Matthew Henry records,

“Christ's authority is exercised over the church for the saving of her from evil, and the supplying of her with everything good for her. In like manner should the husband be employed for the protection and comfort of his spouse; and therefore she should the more cheerfully submit herself unto him. So it follows, Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ (v. 24), with cheerfulness, with fidelity, with humility, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything-in everything to which their authority justly extends itself, in everything lawful and consistent with duty to God.” –Matthew Henry’s Commentary on the Whole Bible

What good wife, would not appreciate a godly man who protects her and looks out for her highest interest?!

But, Joseph Was Running Ahead of God and Leaving His Will.

All Of Us Have Hopes, Dreams, And Plans! The Bible never discourages us from looking to the future with bright expectations in Christ Jesus. However, passages like James 4:13–17, enforce a crucial qualification.  James 4:13-17, Go to now, ye that say, To day or to morrow we will go into such a city, and continue there a year, and buy and sell, and get gain: ¹⁴ Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away. ¹⁵ For that ye ought to say, If the Lord will, we shall live, and do this, or that. ¹⁶ But now ye rejoice in your boastings: all such rejoicing is evil. ¹⁷ Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin. As we make our plans, whether in business, in relationships, or in our personal lives, we must do so with a perspective on who is ultimately in charge—God! In other words, we need to plan with an attitude of humility and deference to the will of God (The Handbook of Bible Applications).

Our Tendency As Humans Is To Seek Control Over Our Circumstances. Certainly the Bible encourages us to take responsibility for our lives (1Thess. 4:11; 1 Pet. 2:12). But even so, we must ultimately submit to the sovereignty of God. The Old Testament prophet Isaiah likens us to clay in the hands of a potter; the divine Craftsman can do with us as He wishes (Is. 64:8; 1 Cor. 12:15–18). As a result, we need to submit every intention to God—even our business proposals and plans. He may allow us to proceed according to our desires; or He may decide to alter our plans according to His own purposes. In either case, we need to accept what He decides to bring into our lives, without arguing and complaining (Rom. 9:20–21; Phil. 2:13–14). Yield control to God; He really does know what He is doing! 

The result: tremendous peace! We can feel confident that an infinitely wise, powerful, and good God ultimately controls our lives and our world. Of course, that does not mean that life will always go the way we want. Sometimes, from our human perspective, it will seem unfair, maybe even absurd. Nevertheless, God rules the world. Humility demands that we acknowledge and accept what He allows to happen in it. Who’s in Charge Here? Always remember God is in total control (Rom. 8:28).

We Must Constantly Guard Against Jumping Ahead of God.  Running ahead never ceases to be a concern for the Christian in his or her walk with God. Each of us must diligently examine our motivations before we act. By cultivating an attitude of patient waiting, and looking to the Lord for guidance, we can give God control over the direction of our lives (The Handbook of Bible Applications).

Yet sometimes we come to feel lost and separated from God. At such times, we may long for the Lord to reveal Himself to us. Fortunately, our God is a loving God. Even when we stray, we need not fear permanent separation from God’s guiding hand. Our Good Shepherd will search for us like the lamb who strayed, and bring us back into His fold. And when He does, our sense of isolation will give way to the comfort and wonder of His presence. In history, God drew people to Himself through very personal encounters with Himself. What is it like to encounter God? How can we more fully experience the fellowship of the Lord? It may be time for a fresh encounter with the living God in accordance with the wisdom of the Apostle John (1 John 1:1-10).